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If you’re wondering about the chance your child has to breaking into the middle class by adulthood, a new study by the Brookings Institution provides some clues. The study breaks down the financial development of a person from childhood through adulthood into a number of milestones. With the achievement of each milestone, success for the next milestone becomes more likely. If an adult achieves the final milestone, he or she has an 81 percent chance of being considered a member of middle class (earning at least three times the poverty threshold).

Readers here are probably not concerned with entering the middle class so much as they are interested in maintaining middle class status through difficult economic times or building wealth beyond the middle class threshold. Taking a parent’s perspective, however, I’d imagine all readers would want their children, hypothetical or real, to be able to at least enter the middle class, relatively without help, as an independent adult.

The milestones used in the study can function as markers along the path. For someone who doesn’t meet one of the benchmark criteria for any particular milestone, the chances of being on-track to meet the next milestone are lower. Here are the milestones that help indicate a future in the middle class or better is highly likely.

  1. Family formation (at birth). Born at normal birth weight to non-poor, married mother with at least a high school diploma.
  2. Early childhood (age 0 to 5). Acceptable pre-reading and math skills and behavior generally school-appropriate.
  3. Middle childhood (age 5 to 11). Basic reading and math skills and social-emotional skills.
  4. Adolescence (age 11 to 19). Graduates from high school with a GPA at least 2.5 and has not been convicted of a crime nor become a parent.
  5. Transition to adulthood (age 19 to 29). Lives independently and family income at least 250% of poverty or receives college degree.
  6. Adulthood (age 29 to 40). Reaches middle class, family income is at least 300% of poverty.

The key to building and growing a strong middle class is ensuring those children who were not lucky enough to be born achieving the first milestone get on track to meet the second despite their circumstances, and that’s where community or government assistance needs to play a role. Children born into situations with a successful first milestone have a 72 percent chance of reaching the next milestone, but those without that initial advantage have only a 59 percent chance of getting on track by age 5. This identifies the need for early childhood education.

This 59 percent chance of getting on track to the middle class after missing the first milestone opportunity is the highest chance someone off track will have. If another milestone is missed in later development, it will be much more difficult to get back on track. Those who by age 29 do not live independently and have not earned a college degree and are not earning at least 250 percent of the poverty level have only a 38 percent chance of reaching the final milestone.

The role of early childhood education is important, regardless of the circumstances of birth, but in terms of final outcome, family situation is still determinant. The study offers this observation:

The first responsibility of parents is not to have a child before they are ready. Yet 70 percent of pregnancies to women in their twenties are unplanned and, partly as a consequence, more than half of births to women under 30 occur outside of wedlock.

In the past, most adults married before having children. Now childbearing outside of marriage is becoming the norm for women without a college degree. To many people, this is an issue of values; to others, it is simple common sense to note that two parents are more likely to have the time and financial resources to raise a child well. Many young people in their twenties have children with a cohabiting partner, but these cohabiting relationships have proven to be quite unstable, leading to a lot of turmoil for both the children and the adults in such households.

Government can help to ensure that more children are born into supportive circumstances by funding social marketing campaigns and nongovernmental institutions that encourage young people to think and act responsibly. It can also help by providing access to effective forms of contraception, and by funding teen pregnancy prevention efforts that have had some success in reducing the nation’s high rates of very early pregnancies, abortions, and unwed births. A number of well-evaluated programs have accomplished these goals and they easily pass a cost-benefit test and end up saving taxpayers money.

There is often a prevailing opinion among political leaders that failure to enter the middle class is a result of laziness or poor choices. This study shows, however, that many of the factors that improve the chance of entering the middle class are out of one’s control: family circumstance at the time of birth, early education in reading and mathematics, and appropriate behavior as a child. Without these milestones, breaking into the middle class as an adult is highly unlikely.

The study concludes that more than hard work, entrance into the middle class depends on the choices parents make for their children.

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Center on Children & Families at Brookings [pdf] via Economix

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When I was an undergraduate in college fifteen years ago or so, I convinced my girlfriend at the time to stay enrolled. She was interested in moving back to her home state and pursuing her degree at a less expensive school, but for some reason, I encouraged her to stay at the university with me, which was out of state for the two of us. She helped pay her out-of-state tuition for some time by selling Beanie Babies on eBay. She was able to get the toys at their wholesale prices, and the collecting craze was at its peak at the time.

Out of all the methods of raising money for college, this bothered me the least. The internet has a much broader reach these days, and there are certainly ways students looking for money can use that to their advantage. The one method that has traditionally worked very well for students — especially young, attractive students — is finding someone older and wealthy, and offering companionship in return for a healthy allowance.

Finding dates online is more accepted and easier today than ever before, and it’s so popular that there is more than enough room online for niche sites to flourish. At least one specialized website allows young men and women find their “sugar daddies” or “sugar mommies” — companions who are willing to offer money for companionship. One such website is seekingarrangement.com, and there are many others easily discoverable. Some are focused on the type of relationship wherein one member of the couple has significantly more wealth than the other, while other dating websites cater specifically to wealthy seekers of love.

For a student looking for help paying tuition, an extra $3,000 to $20,000 a month will cover that and more, and that seems to be what many who register on these websites as sugar daddies are willing to provide. This assumes the anonymity of the internet doesn’t persuade enough people to lie about their finances. I can’t begin to think about what may drive a wealthy person to advertise their identities as a provider of cash in return for companionship, but a market exists for everything, and dating websites like these make it possible (just like eBay does for anything other than body parts and relationships).

It is, however, easy for me to understand what young people in need of cash might be thinking when listing their identities as available for companionship in return for cash. Whether students or not, it’s nice to be taken care of. The idea of never needing to worry about money is what drives many people to work hard to find some way of achieving financial independence as quickly as possible, but there are two big obstacles:

  • Many people will never achieve financial independence, whether due to a lack of motivation, talent, or effort. Anyone can reach the point of growing wealth to the point where it will not be an obstacle to reaching goals, but it’s not going to be easy. Finding a relationship with someone willing to share is often a lot easier.
  • Achieving financial independence without a stroke of luck takes time. People, particularly students, have expenses now, and can’t wait to build a successful business over the course of one generation, even if they have the capability of doing so.

While seekingarrangement.com does a good job of explaining that its customers who enroll to trade companionship for money and vice versa are being honest about their needs and desires and this type of arrangement is a fair trade, I can’t imagine relationships based on this type of arrangement are healthy for the long-term. For many, that’s fine; students looking for help paying their tuition may only want this type of relationship until the financial need no longer exists. What happens, however, when the sugar daddy or mommy meets hard times or the younger person in the relationship loses his or her attractiveness in the eyes of the companion who is interested in someone of a specific age? Perhaps I’m trying to apply long-term relationship logic to a relationship that is designed to be short-term, but the websites that enable these matches claim there long-term viability.

There is the danger that these relationships and websites, though they claim the focus is on companionship, could be focused on sex. For some, this may not be a problem; there are as many opinions about what sex is and what it should be as there are people in this world. When you’re looking to pay for your tuition, seeking a relationship with a wealthy companion may be more socially acceptable than offering yourself as a prostitute. Is the difference important?

Would you be comfortable being on either side of this type of arrangement?

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I introduced Betterment to readers last year as an alternative method of maintaining a brokerage account. For an annual fee of 0.15% to 0.35% of your assets invested with Betterment, the company provides a goal-focused way of investing for retirement and saving for future financial goals. The service handles asset allocation automatically based on goals, making this process ideal for hands-off investors.

Jon Stein, the founder of Betterment, has been preparing for his wedding. His approach to saving is such that receiving typical wedding gifts is not that important to him. He’d rather receive cash that he and his fiancée can use towards their larger goals. While there are a number of options for creating wedding gift registries, there hasn’t been a successful method of creating and maintaining a public cash gift registry that tracks friends’ contributions.

SmartyPig is fairly close. SmartyPig is a goal-oriented savings account with more in common with certificates of deposit. You can define custom goals and invite friends to contribute. But only Betterment uses the registry metaphor like the gift registries hosted by wedding websites like TheKnot or by retailers like Macy’s.

With Betterment’s gift registry, you could break goals into chunks of $50 gifts, for example. One saving goal you may already have in Betterment may be to buy a new house. To encourage your friends and family to contribute to this goal rather than buying you household items is to identify what you may need and ask for contributions. You may know you’re going to need to finish the basement in your new house. With the gift registry, you can include the finished basement as an item on the list, with the funds collected going towards your Betterment goal of buying a new house.

If you know the finished basement is going to cost $10,000, you can ask for 100 donations of $100 a piece. Betterment will track the number of gifts you receive towards this goal.

For a great example, see the gift registry for Betterment founder Jon Stein and his wife Polina. You can see the couple’s specific savings goals — a patio furniture set, a barbecue grill, and a down payment for a new house for example — and contribute to each goal in chunks of $50, $100, or $200.

New and current members can start the gift registry by visiting gifts.betterment.com. Visitors will be prompted to enter the type of event related to the registry, a wedding for example. On the same page, you will be able to enter specific savings goals related to that event and split each goal into reasonable dollar amounts for gifts. After this is complete, you will be able to share your registry with the public.

Unlike some other gift registries this is a completely free service. You do not need to pay a fee to publish the gift registry, there is no fee to collect contributions, and friends and family who wish to contribute do not need to worry about being charged a fee on top of their contribution. That’s not to say Betterment doesn’t profit from this service; funds that are contributed count towards the management fee, 0.15% to 0.35% of managed assets per year, a fee that Betterment charges on a quarterly basis.

Asking wedding guests for cash to be used towards a savings goal is certainly more practical than assembling a gift registry full of items that may not be necessary. When a young couple is getting started with their lives together, perhaps early in their career, other financial goals may be more important than having the finest silverware and china. There may be a stigma, however, with asking for cash from guests. A gift registry like this seems to find a happy medium between the traditional gift registry and a more practical approach to personal finances. Yet, some couples may be uncomfortable with the idea of asking guests for monetary contributions.

The the guests’ perspective, a close family member or friend might prefer to be associated with a useful object, so that the couple thinks of the contributor whenever that object is used or displayed. Giving a gift of money doesn’t have the same lasting effect, but there is no longer the concern about whether the couple would just end up returning the physical gift to the store for the cash, anyway.

A wedding isn’t necessary for creating a gift registry with Betterment. Visitors are encouraged to tie the registry to an event, and the tradition of gift-giving is most often associated with some type of life event, but that’s not a necessary component. Early retirement or financial independence can be considered an event, and this is a legitimate savings goal. Potential contributors, on the other hand, may be more willing to help if there is some sort of celebration attached.

For a limited time, Consumerism Commentary readers can receive a free gift of $25 towards a savings goal when they open a new Betterment account. Open an account, then visit gifts.betterment.com to create a registry.

Would you ask your wedding guests — or friends or family with or without an occasion — for gifts of cash? If you’re wary about asking for cash, does a registry like this make the request more palatable? Would you prefer to stick to traditional wedding registries?

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There are many reasons to move from one city or town to another. I would expect moving for a job is one of the most popular reasons. If you have a great job working for a company, but they decide, with or without your agreement, that you would benefit the company more working for a different location, you can find yourself and possibly your family packing up your belongings and making a new start in a different location. Perhaps you have an exciting job offer, but it’s only available or you’d only consider it if you lived near the company’s location. Moving for a job offer is slightly more risky than moving for a company you’ve been working for; it might take some time with a new company to determine if the job is a good match.

In terms of moving for work-related reasons, the riskiest situation is moving to a new location in search of a job. If you’re struggling to find gainful employment, you might be tempted to move somewhere where the job market is heating up. North Dakota was in the news quite a bit earlier this year. The Bakken area of the state features companies paying good money to attract employees to the oil industry. The industry just happens to be booming there — at least, for the moment.

Employment isn’t the only reason to move. Some people simply have a personality that prevents them from staying in the same location for too long. Whether it’s a sense of adventure or just a desire to change the environment, people move for all sorts of personal reasons. Love is probably one of most significant of these personal reasons.

Love encourages people to move from one place to another. That includes established love, where a long-distance relationship grows to the point where two people want to combine their lives, as well as a quest for love, when the odds of finding a life-long mate are better elsewhere. If money is an important aspect of your ideal match — if you’re interested in meeting wealthy singles — Money Magazine has just the survey for you.

Money has reviewed census data, and with the help of a third party, has determined the 25 best cities or towns in the United States to find wealthy singles. Many of these areas also happen to be college towns. Live near a local university, and there’s a good chance of finding young, successful, educated adults ready and poised for meeting the right partner for a long-term relationship.

The best places for meeting rich singles include Hoboken and Piscataway, New Jersey; Brookline and Cambridge, Massachusetts; Alexandria and Arlington, Virginia; and Mountain View, Irvine, and Redondo Beach, California. These cities and others listed by Money Magazine offer a young, wealthy, single population, with a variety of community activities singles might find interesting. Piscataway is only a few minutes from where I live, and it’s the home of Rutgers University.

Things are pretty quiet in Piscataway, and they like it that way. But that doesn’t mean you’ll have any trouble meeting someone. During football season, tap into a tailgate party at Rutgers University, the school where college ball was born.

Or head to Johnson Park, 473 acres of green space along the banks of the Raritan River. And if you want to mingle while giving back a little something to the community, volunteer opportunities abound at the township’s museums, galleries and annual street fair.

I’m encouraging readers who are single, or those who can imagine they were in this position, to share their opinions.

  • Would you move to a new town in the hopes of finding better luck with love?
  • Does the idea of finding singles with high income interest you more than the locations that provide the most favorable male to female ratio for your situation?
  • How important is the wealth factor in determining your targeted location for living?
  • What other reasons might you have for moving from one town to another?

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Money Magazine

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