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Do people have any kind of control over whom they fall in love with? Perhaps Cupid’s arrow strikes randomly, and there is no choice but to obey the heart — or chemicals in the brain — or sexual urges. But once that initial response has subsided, if you and your partner are headed for a life-long or major long-term relationship, there should be some discussion about money.

What role does that discussion have in determining the path of your relationship?

Relationships coupleA recent study explains that opposites don’t attract in relationships. If you’ve ever looked at relationships where each member of the couple is on a different side of a money-related philosophy, you’ve probably suspected this to be the case. A habitual spender in debt and a frugal saver could have a relationship full of conflict; or, if to avoid conflict money is never part of a conversation, the financial damage could be worse in the future.

Avoidance of tough discussions about money, deliberately hiding financial problems, and outright lying about a financial situation could be more damaging than the financial problems alone. When everything is out in the open, and the couple is fully aware of their individual finances, would a difference in philosophy be enough to curtain the relationship before it progressed to a more serious state?

Ginger, who wrote a guest article for Consumerism Commentary, argued that smart women should marry for money. Although the article was misunderstood by many readers, she was not saying that women should marry for quantity of money, but for their approach to money. A smart, independent woman shouldn’t need to take care of a husband as if she were his mother. The same may be true for men, though traditional sex roles tend to make the man-supporting-woman paradigm more acceptable.

There is more that goes into a successful relationship that being financially compatible. Differences in religion, social issues, values, and goals are important to address. This is a financial website, though, and readers are generally focused on their thoughts surrounding money. In planning to move a relationship forward, how important is a compatible philosophy of money when compared to other matters that define compatibility? Would you be willing to accept a difference in opinion about a divisive political issue before you accept someone who doesn’t share the same financial values? Or do you feel that you might be able to sway your partner’s approach to money more easily than changing other philosophical differences?

I’m interested in hearing opinions from every reader. What was or should be the role of money in choosing a relationship? Leave your comments below.

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There’s a chance you could become a multi-millionaire after repeatedly slamming your head into other people and suffering through the resulting mini-concussions and minor brain damage, but not everyone can be a professional football player in the NFL. There’s a safer and less harmful path toward financial independence.

Cognitive ability is an important part of your human capital, and your human capital measures, among other things, how likely you’ll be able to support yourself financially, particularly through difficult economic times. Cognitive ability is important because many jobs requiring intricate skills and the best careers that offer opportunities for advancement require the ability to learn and adapt, and that’s the core of cognition.

The ability for the brain to process information changes throughout one’s lifetime, and without stimulation, cognitive ability can decline. When companies like Google or SAS ask puzzling interview questions, they’re testing, among other things, cognitive ability. To be hired as a software engineer, you would need to show that you have a strong command of whatever primary programming language is popular at the time, but in an industry that changes so quickly, strong cognitive ability will show that you can learn and adapt to the changing environment.

Rubik's CubeThe key is instilling cognitive ability in children at an early enough age. As we get older, we can continue to refine cognitive ability, but only to a small extent. These tactics may no longer work for me; the best adults can generally do to keep cognitive skills sharp is to get enough sleep and exercise, and eat nutritious food.

If you’re interested in helping your child prepare for a life full of challenges, there are some tactics you can employ.

Learning a new language

As a child, I enjoyed learning languages. I never became fluent in anything other than English, but I enjoyed the process of learning the rules. As a kid, I was fascinated by languages, and spent time learning a little bit of as many as possible. Like many kids, I learned a little Spanish from Sesame Street. I learned Hebrew and tried to teach myself Yiddish. I studied Latin in middle school, was taken out of usual classes to study Greek independently, and took five years of German. I learned programming languages like BASIC, Pascal, lisp, and C. And as a younger kid, I dabbled with creating my own languages and codes.

Music and mathematics have features in common with languages, as well. Music, particularly learning to play an instrument instead of just listening to Mozart, has been shown to improve cognitive ability.

As an adult, learning a new language or a musical instrument is a time-consuming task. There are programs that help frequent travelers learn languages quickly, but you could get a bigger cognitive benefit by learning a language through a more academic curriculum or through immersion. Rather than focusing on key phrases that help you get by in a foreign land, incorporating a new language into the way you think can help keep your brain active. On the other hand, young children, even those learning their first language or languages, can often learn multiple languages concurrently without being confused. Language skills not only improve cognitive ability, but they can make someone a more marketable employee around the world or increase the chance of international success in their own businesses.

Completing puzzles

Elementary school is a great time to focus on solving puzzles whose solutions require thinking “outside the box.” I seem to remember this being called “lateral thinking” when I was younger, but I don’t know if that term is widely used today. These are the types of puzzles that stymie job applicants at companies like Google. But puzzle solving as an adult won’t have the same impact as puzzle solving when the brain is at its most impressionable.

  • Logic puzzles are kind of like the game Clue. You often have two or more dimensions to work with, and the goal is to pair each of the dimensions together based on a limited number of clues. A grid helps eliminate incorrect pairings to discover what’s correct. The more dimensions included in the puzzle, the more brain power necessary to solve the puzzle.
  • For a child, a Rubik’s Cube can be an engaging puzzle. While the answer now comes packaged with the toy, and there are numerous Youtube videos describing how to solve the puzzle in about twenty moves, the cognitive challenge is in working to find patterns of movement that move closer to the result.
  • Text adventure games open up a child’s mind to being able to control their environment. Video games have changed since I was a kid, but I enjoyed the early text adventure computer games like Scott Adams’ Adventureland. (Classic game lovers can play Adventureland here.)

Reading and writing

Reading and writing help develop important cognitive skills focused on processing information the same way they’ll need to make sense of problems as adults. Writing, particularly creative writing, improves the command of language and can help children find clarity when expressing their ideas. Writing is a skill that will easily set someone apart from the competition, as might be necessary in tough job markets. I’ve personally seen atrocious written communication among co-workers throughout the many jobs I’ve had. I will never say I’m a great writer, but these skills are lacking in my former non-profit and corporate environments.

When I compose a well-worded communication, the supervisors shouldn’t be surprised. Every employee with a college education should be able to express himself or herself somewhat eloquently.

These cognitive skills nurtured at an early age can help prepare children for financial success in life. The best careers need smart and flexible employees to take on unforeseen challenges. People often predict what the hottest careers may be one generation from now, but the specific opportunities are irrelevant if children are prepared today to handle any problem that presents itself.

What did you do as a child to improve your cognitive ability? If you have children, how are you helping them prepare for the future?

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New Year’s resolutions have become so cliché that the process of making them has become a joke. People settle for mundane goals for the year like “losing weight,” “quitting smoking,” and “getting out of debt.” These are great goals, of course, but most who think about these only when the calendar changes soon forget their plans, continue their lives as before, and lament their failure when they reflect as next year approaches.

Part of the problem is that these goals are not specific enough for anyone to take seriously. Gurus and bloggers write all the time that goals need to be “SMART” — specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-based — as if it’s a new concept. This is a helpful way to look at your resolutions if you want to approach your life as a project manager. A better approach is to realize that time moves very fast, and with busy lives it’s better to make modest goals and focus on each small step that moves you in the right direction.

New year hatThe most popular New Year’s resolutions are tiresome. It’s no wonder people don’t keep them. Few people can be passionate about losing weight or getting out of debt, and even if they are, it will take a lot of work to change the behaviors (or medical conditions) that caused the circumstances needing improvement. These can be multi-year goals, and if your entire success relies on completion within 365 days (366 in a leap year) you’re setting yourself up for failure.

Here are some different ways at looking at financial resolutions that are not only achievable within the year but are more interesting than what you may typically resolve to do. While there are twelve listed here, consider you’re more likely suited for success if you focus on one. The year will be over before you know it, but your resolutions should always be aligned with long-term goals for yourself.

1. Spend money on things that are important.

Your spending habits reveal what is important to you. If you spend more money buying video games than you spend going out with your girlfriend or wife, you have decided on some level that you favor your time with a computer game more than your significant other. The higher value each dollar has to you, with the importance of one dollar related to your level of disposable income, the bigger the importance of whatever you choose to spend that dollar on.

Look where your money goes. You may need to track your spending if you’re not sure. You’ve defined what’s important to you by your expenses. Your shelter (rent or mortgage) and food are obviously important and form the basis of your expenses, but beyond that, you can rate how important any activity is to you by comparing your level of spending. If you don’t like what you see, resolve to spend your extra money — after you cover necessary expenses and saving — on the things you want to be important to you.

2. Create something every month.

FoodThe culture in this country is one of consumption. We consume food, media, and resources. In order to consume, we spend money. This year, change your role in society. Become a creator rather than just a consumer. You can create something that other people consume or something that you consume yourself.

  • Cook more often than preparing pre-created meals and dining out.
  • Create your own adventures instead of watching movies and television.
  • Write in a journal rather than reading a best-selling novel.
  • Engage your mind creatively, taking photographs, making art, or performing music.

3. Learn a new skill.

This could be the year you focus on trying new things. The best new skills to learn would be those that are related to your interests and passions. Here are a few examples, but think about the things that make you happy and decide on a skill that enhances your attitude.

  • If you’ve had a favorite vacation destination in mind in a foreign country, start learning the language and culture.
  • If you like running but haven’t taken this type of exercise seriously yet, train yourself for a 5K race.
  • Learn how to play the piano.

Many new skills can take more than a year to learn, but the idea is not to consider your year a failure if you don’t complete your mission. Keep taking small steps that move your life in the right direction, and whether you complete your goal within one year is less important.

4. Earn money from your hobby.

Coin CollectionTurning your hobby into a business is a tricky subject. Consumerism Commentary started as a hobby, but after a while, it became apparent that writing could also be a business that generated income. In some cases, though, turning a hobby into a business can turn an enjoyable activity into a chore. This has to be a personal decision. If you like collecting coins, do you want to be a coin dealer? If you’re particularly skilled at photography, do you want to market yourself and compete with professional photographers? Perhaps you can keep your marketing to a minimum and work just for your friends and friends of friends.

Not everyone wants to start a business, but keeping your activities small can keep the business aspect of your hobby to a minimum. Strike the right balance between hobby and business so you still gain a maximum amount of enjoyment from the activities you enjoy.

5. Start a blog to track your finances.

I have first-hand experience about how helpful it has been to publicly track my own finances. This is a great way to maintain focus on any goal. By making your progress public, you are holding yourself accountable for your success. And if your goals are interesting to others, even strangers, they can join you in your quest and offer support — and more often, criticism — when you need it.

Rather than using a blog to track your success, allow the blog to be your success. Start a website using WordPress or Tumblr and write anonymously about the financial issues in your life. You don’t need to be a great writer, but if you continue, your writing will improve. Don’t be concerned about building an audience or earning money. Writing for its own sake helps clarify financial issues, particularly when you read what you’ve written over a period of time.

Tracking your finances in software like Mint.com or Quicken isn’t always enough. When you look at your finances with the intent of writing about them, your brain performs at least a minimum amount of analysis, and this is a step further than most people take with their finances.

6. Support local businesses.

Emily Guy Birken wrote recently about the 3/50 Project, an initiative that encourages consumers to spend $50 among three local businesses each month. Keeping your money local helps improve the economy in the community where you live, and it helps you build relationships with your neighbors near you and across your town.

Following an initiative can provide extra motivation for achieving a goal, but you can do this without an initiative as well. Supporting local businesses is a possible resolution that most people don’t consider. Usually, people resolve to save money, and that could mean shopping online or visiting big-box or warehouse stores. Spending money in these locations does not help a community thrive — at least, not directly.

The same is true about local community banks and credit unions. By moving your money away from big banks, you are taking a financial action that is more beneficial in the area where you live. This is a simple, achievable resolution for the new year.

7. Sell or give away your stuff.

ClothingThis could be the year you focus on decluttering your life. When I moved into my current apartment a few years ago, I seemed to have so much space available. I fell into the typical habit of expanding the way I live to fit into my new environment. If you look around your living space, you can probably find a number of things you don’t need. Here are just a few suggestions of where to start:

  • Look through your closet and give away the clothes you no longer wear.
  • Sell your old games, electronics, movies, and books on eBay or Amazon.com.
  • Organize your papers and shred old documents you no longer need to keep.

This sounds like a good weekend project rather than a New Year’s resolution, so to make this worthwhile, consider running through this process on the first Sunday of each month. Each time, you’ll find more to eliminate. If unchecked, “stuff” can take over your life. If you have so much it’s burdensome, your possessions can own you rather than the other way around. Reduce and eliminate your dependency on things that take up space.

8. Spend more time with activities that make you happy.

I mentioned above that you can determine what’s most important to you by following the money. The same thing is true about time. If you were to analyze every waking minute of my day, you’d see that I spend most of my time working on my business and most of the rest of that time with my girlfriend. Or that’s what I’d like to believe. I, for one, spend a good portion of time entertaining myself with movies and television. Productivity nerds would fairly criticize me, but I do find value in resting my brain by allowing a local grumpy doctor solve medical mysteries so I don’t need to or by watching a clever con game unfold.

But buy spending my time this way, I’ve traded my enjoyment in creativity, like photography and music, for sitting in front of a television. Decide what’s important to you and schedule time to dedicate to those activities. I’m not a fan of keeping a schedule, but when you can schedule activities you enjoy rather than scheduling corporate meetings, you will end the year happier and more fulfilled.

And the reason we make resolutions at all is because we are unhappy with something in our lives. If we can spend more time on enjoyable activities, we won’t be nearly as unhappy.

9. Volunteer with an organization that matches your values.

Until the government decides to offer a tax deduction for volunteer work, this potential resolution won’t have a direct effect on your finances, but it could inspire you in ways that do affect your money. The first step is creating a mission statement for your life. In fact, defining your mission can be a complete resolution itself for the year, as defining a meaningful mission requires thoughtful self-reflection that goes beyond the confines of a lunch break at work.

Once you have an accounting of your values and life goals, it’s easier to determine what organizations share your view of the world. Spending time with these organizations and the people who share your philosophies can be rewarding. Often, the reward is through personal satisfaction and pride but there can be a financial aspect, as well. You may decide that you want to use your wealth to improve life for a community, or you may decide that you would like to motivate yourself harder to build your own wealth to help you complete your life’s mission.

10. Be happy with what you have.

The drive to want more for ourselves creates motivation to move forward, to earn more money, and to improve our financial habits. When there’s a mission behind this drive, a purpose in life, it makes that motivation more meaningful. Your should also stop wanting for a moment to consider that if you are reading this article, you were most likely lucky to be born in a situation or community where wealth-building, education, and even sanitation are possible. The “pursuit of happiness,” along with life and liberty, concerned the founders of the United States, but happiness is easily within reach.

Resolve to consider all the positive things in your life: your family, your wealth (no matter how bad your financial situation is, it could be worse), your friends. Consider the opportunities you’ve been given that helped you achieve what you have so far as well as the work you’ve put into shaping your life.

11. Don’t settle for low-quality relationships.

Unfortunately, there are often people in your life who bring you down. You don’t want to surround yourself with yes men, but if you look at your extended circle of friends, chances are you have a few with whom spending time makes you feel good and a few who often dampen your mood. While you don’t want to eliminate relationships with people from whom you can receive kind criticism, it is beneficial to reduce time with people who consistently have a negative attitude.

I’ve discovered this over a long period of time. I’ve always held onto friendships, regardless of the quality, because I believed that every close connection was as important as another. Perhaps I grew up, or perhaps I just had less time to spend with people. Perhaps there have been a few events where I had placed faith in a friend and had been disappointed, and another friend advised me I shouldn’t have such “high” expectations for my relationships. There are enough great people in the world not to have to settle for mediocre people in your life. If you feel you are consistently lowering your expectations, it may be time to spend time with others — as long as you are doing as much as possible to be a good person, yourself, in your inter-personal relationships.

This is the age of Facebook. People brag about how many “friends” they have, and it’s more of a thrill of collection than an enjoyment of real connections. Resolve to enhance the quality of your relationships rather than quantity. Although this goes against most “networking” advice for professionals who want to advance their career, it’s an approach for people who want to advance their life.

12. Let go of your grudges.

Just like it will benefit you to reduce your exposure to people with negative attitudes, consider expelling the negative feelings you’re harboring towards others. I don’t believe that positivity in itself brings about wealth — you can’t increase your bank account by just thinking about how nice it would be to have a bigger bank account, regardless of what New Age aficionados tell you — but letting go of thoughts that prevent you from accepting opportunities and greeting the world optimistically will help put you in a better position to take advantage of good things that come your way.

The above resolutions are not specific. You can use them — or better, just one or two — to guide your thoughts and attitude for the coming year, or you can use them to create a basis for measurable targets that come December 31 you can say you reached. Some tie directly into your finances, and others are related laterally. All of them can help you go beyond the typical neglected resolutions like “losing weight” and “saving money.”

Do something worthwhile and meaningful with your self in 2012.

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Having ready many books about personal finance and money management over the last decade, I recognize most new books as offering nothing particularly new to readers. Some of the world’s favorite money gurus rehash the same ideas repeatedly, some on a predictable yearly release schedule, and these books become best-sellers due to the names attached. There have been some notable exceptions to the endless supply of old ideas, and I try to recognize them when I can.

There is a reason for repetition, though. Here are a few:

  • You might have missed “Get Out of Debt 2012″ because you weren’t thinking about money at the time, but “Get Out of Debt 2013″ was released at the perfect time for you.
  • “Wealthy Dad, Middle-Class Dad” might not have been a book that caught your attention, but “Wealthy Sister, Middle-Class Sister” was recommended by your favorite talk show host.

Kimberly Palmer's Money PlannerKimberly Palmer, the author of Generation Earn: The Young Professional’s Guide to Spending, Investing, and Giving Back, has decided to take a different approach with her latest project. Kimberly has been a guest on the Consumerism Commentary Podcasttwice — and she also writes for U.S. News and World Report.

The author has created a series of workbooks, meant to appeal to those of us who are more creative, designed to help guide participants through the financial aspects of life. The workbook approach transforms readers into participants, and if the workbooks are engaging, they can be much more effective in someone’s life than just reading a book.

Normally, I’m not a fan of worksheets. These are great learning tools for elementary school students, and any time I’m asked to complete an assignment like that, I begin to think that the author is treating readers like children. As I’ve discovered by maintaining this website since 2003, writing things down works to change your life. Once you complete a worksheet that asks you to write down your financial goal for the year, that goes becomes real. It adds a level of commitment. While there are no consequences for missing your goal other than self-reprimand, writing things down can add motivation.

Kimberly Palmer is offering several self-published money planners on Etsy.

  • The Money Planner is designed as a companion workbook for Generation Earn. The activities match the book’s chapters.
  • The 2012 Money Planner breaks down the coming year by month, with tasks appropriate for the time of the year.
  • The Debt-Free Planner focuses on the one specific task of eliminating debt.
  • The Baby Planner helps expecting families get ready for the new financial responsibilities of having kids.

Kimberly Palmer's Money Planner, Page 1The first three planners are also available as a bundle.

To get an idea of whether these planners are right for you, I’ve included the first page of the Money Planner. Kimberly indicates the creative and visual approach will appeal more to right-brainers like herself. Whether your mind is ruled by the logical or creative aspects of thought, anything that inspires you to take action will help improve your finances.

The key to success is maintaining your motivation over a long period of time, and workbooks can inspire success more than typical books. In the end, however, success depends on a family’s or individual’s ability to maintain focus and motivation.

If you’re interested in one or more of Kimberly Palmer’s Money Planners, visit the author’s Etsy shop.

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