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This is a guest article by Jennifer Calonia, Junior Editor at GoBankingRates. In the article, the author encourages couples in failing relationships to break-up before holidays and their obligatory expenses are imminent.

While it may sound like the antithesis of romance, calling it quits with your other half before the Valentine’s Day can be advantageous to your heart and your checkbook. Gift-giving and travel (if your significant other is across country) on Valentine’s Day is poised to destroy the savings of those who are too apprehensive to raise the white flag of surrender when it comes to their dead-end relationship.

According to a 2010 report by graphic designers Lee Byron and David McCandless, more couples break up toward the end of the calendar year–peaking two weeks before Christmas and the month after Valentine’s Day.

Valentine's DayThe data were gathered by conducting a year-long search on Facebook statuses which included the words “break up” or “broken up.”

Many argue that data used by Byron and McCandless is drawn from a highly defined sample pool, noting that most Facebook users are younger in their years. Despite that limitation, this study raises significant questions for those in the midst of a turbulent or stagnant relationship.

Break up to save money on gifts and travel

As the saying goes, “breaking up is hard to do,” but it could be a wise financial decision to opt out of your relationship if it’s already hit a brick wall. Instead of waiting for the report’s break-up peak after Valentine’s Day, why not face reality before February lands on your doorstep?

Observances like Valentine’s Day are among the highest-rated gift-giving holidays among couples next to birthdays. According to the National Retail Federation, in 2011, the average expense on Valentine’s Day gifts to a significant other was $68.98 — a figure that is on the rise.

Further, all of the subsequent holidays in the year (i.e. Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year’s and a sprinkled birthday) present an open door for extra out-of-pocket travel expenses when planning to attend your partner’s family gathering or scheming a romantic getaway.

At the risk of being denounced as cold-hearted or even cheap, severing strained relationships before Valentine’s Day is at minimum, a savvy move for your wallet.

Broken heart: better investment

Seeking out and fostering a relationship with a partner is at its root an effort in finding a spouse. Stringing your significant other along when you don’t see a future ahead is not only by many people’s standards cruel, it’s a fruitless investment. Whether you’re dealing with emotions or finances, keeping long-term goals in sight are an important aspect of achieving success and happiness, overall.

Struggling relationships may not see another opportunity to break up until March, and time is money. There is never a “good time” to break-up, so biding one’s time after the holiday season and into Valentine’s Day is not the most effective approach in the long haul.

Break up with civility before February 14 comes around and open yourself up to a well-rounded year of improvements in 2012.

Editor’s note: I can’t say I’m a fan of making relationship or romantic decisions with finances as a trigger. Personal finance experts tend to see the world in terms of money; if you’re a hammer, everything looks like a nail, or so the saying goes. Obviously finances must be a consideration in major decision-making, and ending a bad relationship earlier rather than later is a better choice than lingering. The worst case scenario is losing a quality relationship over the cost of a bouquet of flowers or a meaningful gift.

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An acquaintance of mine formerly owned a store that sells “country” products like hand-crafted wood furniture, candles, and decor inspired by rural living. Twice a year, she recruited family members and friends to help take an inventory of the entire store. This process involved many hours of walking throughout the building and counting items on shelves and in storage. Even though the computer sales system tracked the quantities of items so at any time she could identify the number of wool welcome rugs with a turkey design, someone would count the rugs on the shelves to ensure the computer was correct.

Like a store, your awareness isn’t complete until you do your own financial inventory. Just like your name or your occupation identifies yourself quickly to other people, your net worth — the sum of the values of all your financial accounts — is a nominal description of your financial identity. The complete calculation of a net worth can be convoluted because there are some important items to include that aren’t easily valued, so we can start with the most important aspects. For our purposes, we will look at the simplest way to determine your net worth.

Everything we need to consider fits within these six categories:

  1. Bank accounts: where are they and what are the balances?
  2. Investments: Do you have any? If so, what is the current estimated value of what you own?
  3. Property: Do you own a house? How much did you buy it for or how much do you think it’s worth now?
  4. Mortgage: Are you paying off your house? How much left do you owe?
  5. Other loans: Are there any other loans that require your attention?
  6. Credit cards: If you have credit cards and don’t pay the balances in full each month, what are the balances?

If you enjoy working on the computer, list all of your accounts in each category into a spreadsheet program like Excel, Google Docs, or the free OpenOffice.org. Spreadsheet software isn’t difficult to use for the purpose of creating these lists, but if you would prefer to work with paper and a calculator, that is a valid choice.

Each row should represent an account or item. For each item, the first column should include the location or type of account and the second column should contain the amount or value. For accounts in categories one through three, enter the values as positive numbers. For accounts in categories four through six, use negative numbers to represent the values.

Add up the numbers in the second column and enter the total beneath. This total, for the purpose of this early stage of financial development, is your “net worth.” Your net worth is just a calculation of what you own subtracted by what you owe at any one point in time. Just like your name or your occupation identifies you, your net worth describes your identity in financial terms.

If you are married or share finances with another individual, you may want to consider the financial accounts belonging to everyone within the household rather than just your own. Whether to do so is a personal choice.

Here is an example net worth calculation in its most basic form. If you’d like to go beyond the basics, read How to Calculate Your Net Worth. In the report below, the red numbers in parentheses are negative numbers, representing amounts you owe to other people or companies.

Example Net Worth

While your bottom line is a very personal number, don’t take it too personally if you feel unsatisfied. There are often quoted guidelines that describe what your net worth “should” be for your age, but that type of comparison neglects to consider situations which might be unique to your situation. For example, if you’ve spent more time earning undergraduate and graduate degrees before entering the workforce, your net worth may be lower than average once you begin working full-time, but may increase faster if your degrees provided you with opportunities for higher-earning jobs. (Please note that I wrote “higher-earning,” not “better.”)

Resist the temptation to compare your net worth with those of others. Although websites like NetworthIQ exist to make interesting comparisons within and across demographic groups, focusing on other people’s numbers is distracting when all you want to do is control your own finances. Use this number, your net worth, to understand your current position and determine whether it is where you would like to be.

Now that you know where you are financially, you need to look at some more numbers to get a quick feel for how fast your net worth is likely to increase (or decrease). The next part of taking control of your finances is making an accurate prediction based on your income and expenses.

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Thanks For the Bats

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This is a guest post from someone who pops up in some of my more personal stories here on Consumerism Commentary. “A.” is a fourth-grade teacher in the New York City public school system.

Every Halloween, my aunt lends her skills to my fourth-grade class by creating bats out of sewn felt bean bags, which I present to the students as part of a holiday goodie bag. She has been creating these bats since I was a student teacher in graduate school. Every year, she sends off the new set of bats from her house in Georgia without even asking me, and I appreciate her hard work.

This year, I decided to officially thank her for her years of bats, but a standard thank-you note wasn’t going to cut it. I wanted to get her a gift, but I wasn’t sure what to send. My mom suggested buying her a candle from Freedom Candle, a small company based near my extended family in Connecticut. Whenever we visit the family, we stop by the store and buy a bunch of candles to be used later as gifts.

Freedom CandleThis company’s candles are the best I’ve ever seen. When the candle is lit, my house is full of its delicious scent. My favorite scent is Gran-berry, so I decided buy this candle as a gift for my aunt in Georgia in return for her bats. Since she will not be visiting us for Christmas this year, I ordered the candle online and noted for it to be shipped to my aunt’s house.

Soon after, I received a confusing email from FedEx. The candle was on its way to my house in New York rather than my aunt’s house in Georgia. I sent an email to the owner of Freedom Candle to ask what I should do. I fully expected to have been required to return the candle at my expense or place an entirely new order.

I received a response right away. They said the shipment was their mistake and I should enjoy the candle incorrectly sent to me. They would send another one to Georgia, no questions asked. I was so excited! I’m getting a free candle of my favorite scent. I quickly wrote another email to Freedom Candle thanking them. I expressed how much I love their candles and mentioned I would recommend them to everyone I know. This is what I call great customer service!

The next day, I received the misdirected shipment and opened the box. Immediately, the scent filled the room. As I was unpacking the candle, I noticed a pleasant surprise: there were three votive candles included in the shipment. A label on the votives said, “A little something extra from your friends at Freedom Candle.” I didn’t think this would be possible, but I’m even more pleased with my purchase than before. I will send another email to say thank you. In my experience, small companies like Freedom Candle have customer service that can’t be matched by the big stores.

For more from “A.,” keep checking Consumerism Commentary. I may be able to bribe her into writing more.

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‘Tis the season to think about charitable giving, and there are some wonderful opportunities to do this while giving to your friends and loved ones. Whether it’s one of your favorite causes or one which aligns with the interests of the recipient, there are three simple ways to make a doubly-impactful gift this holiday season.

1. Buy Christmas/holiday cards which support your charity of choice

If you’re going to buy cards this year anyway, why not see if your favorite charity has anything to offer? Not only do you show your support, but you may find interesting, unique cards which stand out to their recipients.

* The Audubon Society has a stunning array, and 10% of each box goes to serve their cause.

* The Make-A-Wish Foundation will actually personalize and mail your cards for you if you wish to make a gift on someone else’s behalf. Or you can order blank cards and send them yourself.

* The American Diabetes Association offers cards which you can personalize regardless of whether you are making a gift donation as well.

* Defenders of Wildlife offers free personalization of up to 4 lines when you order 3 or more boxes of cards, plus the cards are really wonderful for animal lovers.

* Sierra Club has an array of cards ranging from adorable polar bears frolicking in the snow to stunning National Park landscapes.

sweatshirt2. Buy gifts which provide a percentage to charity

* Know someone who loves the water? Oceana has some really cool t-shirts and apparel, and as much as 25% of the proceeds benefit their charity.

* Sierra Club offers two gorgeous gift-boxed calendars, note card sets (the owl set is my favorite) and even books for the nature/scenery lover in your life.

* The American Red Cross Store offers a number of smart gifts for the practical people in your life who always like to be prepared. Start with the $5 emergency kit as a stocking stuffer or spring for an emergency radio or more extensive kit. They’ve even got a line of vintage-style and baby clothing and some cute wrapping paper to package it all up.

* UNICEF has a store full of interesting, international gifts, including candles, journals, and books.

* A cancer survivor or supporter might enjoy jewelry, clothing or a tote bag from the American Cancer Society Gift Shop.

oceana3. Donate to charity as a gift

* Oceana is offering a holiday adopt-a-creature program. For $35, you can adopt a dolphin, seahorse, or one of 16 other sea creatures and receive a cookie cutter in the shape of that creature and a special sugar cookie recipe. For $75, you can choose a set of 4 creatures, or for more, you can get the full set with an oven mitt or two included. It’s a nice way to donate while still having a fun gift for the recipient to open and enjoy.

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* Oxfam America offers you the unique opportunity to present your friends and family with a sheep, a can of worms, or other amusing gift. You are donating your funds to purchase items needed by growing communities worldwide, but you get a very charming personalized card announcing your gift in any of a number of categories relevant to the recipient, from gardener to student. How else could you possibly gift wrap a camel?

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* Heifer International also donates livestock to countries in need. You can choose from a variety of animals, including a llama for $150.

* American Forests lets you plant trees in the name of a loved one for $1 a tree.

* Alternative Gifts International offers truly impactful gifts of of food, shelter, trees, gardens and medicines around the world.

* Not sure what charity would be most fitting? JustGive.org sells gift certificates which can be redeemed for any of 1,000,000 charities and nonprofit organizations.

There are so many more charities out there offering personal, interesting and impactful holiday gifts. What are your favorites?

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