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This is a guest post by Forest from Frugal Zeitgeist. Forest writes about frugality, finance, minimalism and lifestyle. In this article, Forest shares his experiences in the kitchen. Cooking great meals is a great way to save money and stay healthy, but it’s a skill that I haven’t developed for myself. Passion can boost motivation, though, and this article might help me find that passion about preparing meals.

When Flexo wrote about alternative financial resolutions he mentioned the idea of cooking more often at home. Cooking at home is often described as a way to save money. It will do that if you replace your dining-out habit, but it does much more than just improve your finances. Cooking can quickly become an enjoyable hobby, and when you get into the groove you can even use it to impress your friends. The health aspects cannot be overlooked, either. Replacing processed foods and restaurant foods with home-cooked versions, where you know the ingredients, will affect you and your family’s diet in a positive way.

But you can’t just expect to fire up the stove and produce an award-winning dish. Learning to cook takes time and patience. You will fail, and you will find that at times cooking isn’t as economical as you originally thought it would be. Investing in a stock of spices and speciality ingredients can quickly blow a shopping budget!

In this post I want to share my journey into the wonderful world of cooking at home and then hopefully convince you to make it a regular activity and a beloved hobby.

How I found my passion in cooking

ToastI never learned to cook anything as a kid. My kitchen wizardry stopped at being able to “cook” a perfect slice of toast and heat an egg in hot oil. Sometimes I would experiment, but I’ll skip the tales of my candy-bar sandwich and curry hot chocolate. When I moved out of my parents’ home at the age of seventeen, I sucked at cooking.

Luckily I had a corner store within twenty seconds of my house. I became a wiz at putting plastic-wrapped steak bakes and hamburgers into the microwave, and later I even progressed to turning on the oven to warm up a frozen pizza. Breakfast cereal was a favorite dinner of mine too. Cheerios for dinner! Yum!

This went on for quite some time. When I turned eighteen and started to throw regular pints of beer into the mix, my belly decided to grow big and round. Through the age of twenty, not much changed apart from my pants size.

Weight is easy to put on and reasonably easy to fix, but the bad habits had been affecting another aspect of my life, something not immediately apparent to most around me. As my belly grew, so did my overdraft. My money situation wasn’t going too well.

In addressing the cash flow problem, I knew I had to make all sorts of cut-backs. It wasn’t exactly a secret to me that my processed food habit was costing me a lot of money and I decided to tackle it by learning how to cook at home. This was also around the same time that I became vegetarian, which seriously reduced the selection of ready-made foods I could purchase at the corner store.

One of my first trips to the supermarket after the decision involved me stocking up on spaghetti, cans of tomatoes, dried basil, salt, pepper and lots of fruit.

I remember throwing myself head first into cooking, just like the way I refused to read instructions when I got a Transformer for Christmas. I didn’t read any cookery books.

For one of my first home cooked meals, I threw a few cans of tomatoes into a large wok with a little oil. I tossed in a load of basil, a little salt and let it simmer for quite a few hours. The result was better than you may think for a first attempt, and although the work was minimal, I enjoyed throwing some stuff in a pot and coming out with an edible meal. I was intrigued enough to learn more.

I continued to develop my “tomatoes and stuff in wok” speciality and would try adding different veggies and herbs. One important thing I did do was learn the basics. This included cooking eggs in their various forms, the basics about herbs, simple stir fry, fried rice, stews and chilis. Occasionally I would follow a recipe.

The big change for me came when I quit my job and moved from England to Canada. I found food to be even more expensive in Canada, and my budget was very thin. I had left behind a high-paying job in London and was now washing dishes in a pub kitchen. Of course being around cooking all day was part of my inspiration, but working out how the hell to feed myself on minimum wage was the real kick in the butt.

I started to buy a lot of raw ingredients and had moved in with my girlfriend. A student and a kitchen boy needed some entertainment and that was where Manjula came in! We enjoyed making dinner together, even though it was stir fry most nights. Cooking with your family and friends can be a lot of fun and a motivation to push yourself forward. We both enjoyed curry so we learned how to cook it properly. I started to search for recipes online, and I discovered Manjula’s Kitchen on Youtube. Manjula cooks a lot of great Indian dishes and her lackluster commentary creates a homey, “I can do this” vibe that I found quite warming. After my first Manjula curry I was hooked.

I was being reeled into this cooking thing.

When you make that great meal, something you never thought you could make, it’s like you finally get it. Cooking can be drudgery, especially when you have to cook for many and you just don’t enjoy it. I look at it like painting. Painting a house is boring as hell, and the outcome is nice, but nothing special. Paint a picture and you enjoy the whole process and the outcome immensely. If you approach cooking like painting a picture you’ll enjoy it very much.

TortillasNext up for me was my other favorite food, bread. I had a drunken conversation with a Mexican lady who convinced me tortillas were just flour and water cooked in a flat pan. I had flour and water at home so a day or so later I mashed them together into a dough, rolled them into tortilla-shaped discs using a Snapple bottle, and fried them in a hot pan. Like my very first tomato experiment, it worked again — not perfect, but within reach of being able to be called bread!

This put me on a bread kick and I turned to the internet for a real loaf. The first recipe I ever used is one I still use today, and variations on the dough are easy to experiment with. There is something calming about kneading dough and something very satisfying about eating it hot out of the oven.

Where I am today?

I cook almost every day. Cooking is a hobby and something I do almost without thinking. I’ll happily tackle any kind of cusine and challenge myself to new recipes on a regular basis. I’m not afraid to pick up something I have never seen before and experiment with it. I still make a lot of mistakes but that is half of the fun.

Along with my confidence, my knowledge of food sourcing and nutrition has increased. I try to buy in-season foods and balance my diet with meals that contain the right amount of carbs, proteins, good fats and all of that stuff.

I absolutely adore cooking. Food is something we all need, but good food is something we all love. The smugness and satisfaction from being able to match meals at your favorite restaurants is unbelievable. Cooking isn’t an art or skill that only a few people have, it can be learned. If you keep at it, you will learn. You’ll want to share your new-found love with friends, and they’ll get the bug too.

Tips to start cooking

Starting off any new endeavor that you hope to grow into a hobby can be tough work. If things don’t work out the first time, it is easy to give up. Often, fear of failure, poor early results and lack of time push people back to TV dinners and prepared meals. Like any feat you want to achieve, you need to go in knowing that you will fail, you will make terrible food, and your journey from a person who reads recipes to a full-fledged cook will not be linear.

Making failure part of the learning process will guard your self-esteem enough to help you get through the rough patches. Set goals and make time for cooking. Instead of going to the pub, stay home and follow a recipe, bake a cake for the family, or go shopping for a cook book.

I would suggest you set goals centered around being able to cook your favorite meal or a favorite meal for your family, learning to cook a few dishes of a certain cuisine, or replacing a regular store-bought item with a homemade alternative. The goal should be something that matters to you and keeps you focused. A solid option is baking bread that is better than the store variety. It’s not easy but a skill that is a lot fun — and messy — to learn.

As your cooking progresses something will happen. Your lack of confidence will subside and you’ll fall into the groove I mentioned earlier. For me, indicators of this were being able to add ingredients without measurement and being able to open anyone’s pantry and put together a meal without a recipe book. At this stage, you won’t be a master chef, but you’ll be competent and confident enough to take on any recipe.

Experimentation is very important and is key to discovering the joy of cooking. If you think chocolate and chili pepper would be good on pork, try it. If you are bored at home, just grab some random ingredients and see what you can cook up.

Make cooking social

Keeping cooking a lonseome pursuit could stop it from progressing into a full-fledged hobby, so it’s important to share. Sharing the cooking and eating experience with friends and family is one of the best parts.

I remember baking cakes as a young kid with my grandma, and I think baking and cooking with kids is a great learning tool. I wish cooking with my parents had been a part of my whole life. Cooking with your partner also brings in a new intimacy to a relationship and shares a responsibility that is often left to one person, most often the woman.

Expanding beyond family, it’s great to host potluck meals or host a dinner party on rotation. Friends of mine set up a little club where four couples set four Saturday nights aside. Each Saturday night, the eight people would all visit one house, and the hosts would cook a three-course meal. The result was that it pushed everyone in that group to try to up their cooking game, and it was somewhat competitive. The dinner parties were successful enough that they have all improved their cooking skills.

Get started

AsparagusI hope I have you convinced to give it a try and I hope you have overcome any apprehension. You may not even enjoy cooking at first, but you’ll enjoy the challenge. Here are some tips to help you get started. Please come back to let us know how it went.

  • Cook a basic flat bread that can be used for lunches, side dishes and more.
  • Bake a real loaf of bread. This is the very first basic bread recipe I ever used, and it’s good.
  • Find an online video recipe for your favorite restaurant meal and try to make it.
  • Use the ingredients in your pantry and create a random meal. It doesn’t matter if it turns out bad, just mess around!
  • Try another favorite dish or two from another part of the world.
  • Invite a friend over for dinner and you cook. They can bring the wine.

Good luck with your new money-saving, healthy hobby.

Please don’t hesitate to ask any questions, or ask for any resources, ideas or anything that comes to mind. If you love cooking, what inspired you to start?

Photos: John McClumpha, jeffreyw, woodleywonderworks

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Your personal human capital is an essential part of evaluating your overall worth. Human capital has a number of definitions, but in this case, it refers to a measurement of who you are, particularly in relation to how you might be seen as valuable to an employer or a client. This isn’t the only way to define a person, but since it ties directly into your future earnings and your potential net worth, it is related to finance and shouldn’t be ignored. It’s as important, or even more important, than your net worth measurement.

Consider two job applicants with identical technical skills and education, both pertaining to the job description, and a similar personality that could result in either choice being a good fit for the company. One of the applicants has indicated that he has often been called upon to present information about hie field to the public. Having presentation skills can make a prospective employee more attractive to the employer. The ability to eloquently, entertainingly, and comfortably lead a discussion or present information in front of an audience can open opportunities.

Anyone can throw together a Powerpoint presentation together, but delivering that presentation isn’t as easy as reading the bullet points. Anyone can write a speech, but elocution is a skill that requires careful honing.

Most people in “business” head directly to Toastmasters. Toastmasters uses a standardized curriculum and a safe practice environment that allows people to receive the education and experience they need to take their presenting skills to the next level. My former company, at the satellite location where I worked, had an internal Toastmasters group. We met once every two weeks to critique each other’s speeches or presentations and gain experience speaking extemporaneously about random topics assigned in the moment.

Outside of Toastmasters, you can gain experience speaking and presenting by organizing an event in your community. Libraries offer these opportunities as do community centers and religious organizations. If your field of interest holds conferences, try to get on the schedule of speakers.

Public speaking is acting and performing

Stage fright is a common barrier to increasing public speaking experience. There are two keys to overcoming stage fright or performance anxiety: being overly prepared and breathing properly. Even though the solution is simple, it isn’t always easy. Even veteran actors deal with stage fright, so it isn’t something that is easily cured even it can be managed. Acting experience can be beneficial for public speaking, as many of the skills are similar. In addition to acting, any kind of performance experience — music, dance, etc. — can have positive effects on confidence and the ability to successfully deliver a speech.

Acting also helps develop a performer’s presence. If you’re speaking publicly, you’ll need to have a presence that’s informative and trusted. The best speakers are sometimes described as “larger than life.” You know when they walk into a room that whatever they have to say will be worth hearing.

Actors develop emotional communication skills. Without saying a word, an actor can convey an emotion. The audience will be able to understand what the actor is thinking or feeling. Skilled actors can transmit those emotions to the audience, so the spectators can sympathetically feel what the actor is feeling. This is an invaluable skill for speakers. It could mean the difference between a good presentation and a speech that has the audience on the edge of their seats.

How do you suggest gaining public speaking experience?

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Consider your personal human capital as an addendum to your net worth when evaluating your overall worth. While your net worth is a good financial measurement, your human capital is a good predictor of how you’ll handle opportunities to grow in the future. In an unsteady economy, those with better developed human capital have an advantage. One way to increase your human capital is to volunteer your time with organizations.

Recently, I wrote about gaining more experience as a way of boosting your human capital, making your skills more valuable to others, particularly potential employers or clients. Kyle from Amateur Asset Allocator promptly offered this feedback on growing human capital:

Volunteer work! Most charitable organizations are desperate for volunteers so it’s not incredibly difficult to get yourself in charge of something, even if it’s something small.

Habitat for HumanityThe organizations requiring volunteers benefit greatly from passionate individuals who are ready to get to work. Without volunteers, many non-profit organizations, including religious institutions, would never be able to provide services as broadly or as deeply as they’d like. These organizations are usually not businesses that create revenue by selling products to a consumer, and the opportunity to generate income is low. Relying on donations or government support for funding, volunteers play a vital role. The bigger an organization’s the mission, the more volunteers they’ll need to get the work done.

This demand for volunteers creates a great opportunity for those willing to dedicate time to the advancement of a cause. Volunteering is always the most beneficial when you can align yourself with an organization whose mission matches your values.

  • If you are religious, your church, synagogue, or mosque could have opportunities for you.
  • If you are driven to help find a cure for a disease, there is likely an organization that promotes awareness or raises funds with the intent of helping affected families and encouraging research.
  • For those passionate about arts, there are likely several non-profits in your proximity that relate directly to your passion.
  • Social issues like poverty are also served by non-profit organizations.

Gain leadership experience

If the boss at your day job undervalues you work and is reluctant to give you more responsibility, you’ll benefit from the opportunities that volunteering might present you. Since demand is high, any organization would value a motivated volunteer ready to help organize other volunteers, run events or manage campaigns. There are always openings for volunteers who are not seeking much responsibility, like those who help direct traffic at an event, but it won’t be difficult for a motivated volunteer to prove himself or herself as someone who can take responsibilities that require more skills.

I had a discussion yesterday with a friend whose husband has been having trouble moving to the next level in his career. The next level would be a management position, and he’s become a victim of the vicious experience cycle: He feels he won’t be hired as a manager without management experience, but he can’t gain management experience until he’s hired as a manager. This is always a tough barrier, but one solution is to volunteer for an organization. In many cases, you can accept leadership positions as a volunteer without having official experience, as long as you are capable and talented.

If you are a successful leader in your work as a volunteer, you can feel safe highlighting this work on your résumé, increasing your chances of receiving an offer for your first leadership position within your company or your career. This is even better if your volunteer work is somewhat related to your vocation.

Increase your confidence

Don’t be surprised if you find yourself more self-confident after volunteering for a cause about which you’re passionate, particularly if you do have a leadership position. A side effect of many organizations’ missions is making a difference in someone’s life, and when you are a part of an organization that makes a difference, regardless of whether you have a leadership role, you feel better about yourself. Self-confidence, like other aspects of your human capital, is difficult to measure. It’s not a skill you can put on your résumé. It is, however, an attitude that permeates what you do, and it’s something that other people, including a hiring manager or a client, can sense.

Expand your network

Cultivating your network of colleagues, acquaintances, and friends is a major contribution to your overall human capital, and I’ll be addressing this in more detail in a following article. Volunteer work often introduces you to people you wouldn’t otherwise meet. This is a great advantage from a business as well as social perspective. By associating with a wide variety of contacts, you’ll begin to see connections between the people you know. It’s easy to see this on social networks where you can chart your circle of friends. As your network expands, you’ll see that people you don’t expect to know each other do, proving the truth of the cliché: “it’s a small world, after all.”

While these connections help understand your friends and colleagues better, broad networks that cross industries and interests can result in your having someone to turn to in a wide variety of situations. If you need advice on starting a business, chances are you know someone who has been through the process of getting her own business off the ground. With a broad network, whether you need a photographer or a plumber, someone in your network can help, either directly or provide a recommendation. Likewise, the bigger your network, the more you’ll be seen as a helpful resource.

Find the right opportunity

The first thing you should consider when planing to volunteer is how much time you can commit. One of the biggest problems that organizations face is a lack of quality volunteers, and by over-promising or making a commitment you can’t keep can increase the difficulty of operations for an organization you’re trying to assist.

Consider your passions. This isn’t your job. Since you’re not being compensated in traditional monetary form for your work, ensure you’re going to enjoy and find meaning in the work that you’ll be doing. The wok itself might not be fun — stuffing envelopes with fundraising mailers comes to mind — but if the organization stands for something you support, the work will feel worthwhile.

Volunteering can be expensive. Look at the costs. If you need to travel 100 miles three days a week just to get to the location where your volunteering takes place, you’ll be spending time to commute and money to travel, neither of which can usually be reimbursed. (Time is never reimbursable; expenses are only reimbursable if your organization happens to be able to afford that luxury.)

Have you ever volunteered for an organization? What were your experiences?

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For anyone interested in starting a business, particularly in creative arts, is building up a reputation in the field. I mentioned that my goals for this year include doing two photography shoots each month. Over the past few years, my interest in photography has grown from a hobby to a serious interest to a potential income-generating endeavor, and over the last few years I’ve taken a number of classes to learn from professional artists.

I haven’t had much time to dedicate to photography due to my other responsibilities, but if there comes a time when I have more free time, I will most likely be pursuing professional photography with greater force.

There was a time when there was a delineation between amateur and professional photographers; from a technical standpoint, amateurs used inexpensive 35mm rangefinder cameras and occasionally SLRs, while professionals used high-level SLRs, medium format cameras, and large format cameras (although some did use rangefinders, particularly artists who focused on street photography). Professionals had training from other professionals, while amateurs concentrated on family snapshots.

The advancement of technology introduced more sophisticated cameras and lenses for amateurs, and a new category of photographer emerged: the “prosumer.” The prosumer exists somewhere between professional and general consumer. The quality of image, from a technical standpoint and not necessarily artistic, has given these consumers the confidence that their images are as good as professional work. Also, except to the most discerning clients, it has resulted in the impression that all it takes is a good camera for anyone to become a professional photographer.

With many amateurs acquiring quality equipment and deciding to start business, many are looking to build their portfolios and get practice shooting for clients. A business looking for event photography or a family looking for portraits need only to ask around within their network of connections, and most likely, he or she will find a budding photographer willing to accept the task for free.

As a result, clients expect they can find professional photographers willing to work for free at any time, which devalues the entire photography industry. Some pointed this Craigslist ad to me, a reaction from a photographer who may have been starting out but who’s frustrated that he or she is expected to work for free to build the portfolio.

This doesn’t apply to just photography, but it’s a great example because technology has put high-quality equipment in reach to more people. Should new business owners offering creative services be willing to work for free? Does offering service for free devalue their businesses? If they do offer services for free, how do they transition to earning revenue?

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