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A few years ago, I shared a statistic showing that it costs almost $200,000 to raise a child, from birth to age eighteen. If that weren’t enough of a financial burden, consider that one out of 88 children are now diagnosed with autism, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (source, pdf).

Regardless of whether this significant, 78 percent increase in occurrence since the last study is attributed to broader diagnosis, more families are paying for the services a diagnosis of autism requires. Insurance will not cover all costs for therapies associated with autism or autism spectrum disorders. Families will need to pay out-of-pocket for many medical expenses. While the cost of raising a child to age 18 might average around $200,000, dealing with autism could add another $25,000 a year in medical costs.

The expenses don’t end with therapy and doctor’s visits. Beyond medical expenses, parents with children with autism often need to pay for special education, day care, and a home for an autistic adult who can no longer live with his or her parents.

The emotional burden placed on parents of autistic children adds to the financial burden. Parents of children with autism earn significantly less than parents of children who do not have this condition, presumably because the parents have extra responsibilities in competition with the attention they give to their careers. Mothers of autistic children average earnings that are 56% lower than other mothers. Dealing with autism from a financial perspective is doubly difficult due to the increased cost of care and the parents’ lowered income potential.

As a result of the increased financial burden, many parents of children with autism need to resort to going into debt to cover their costs. Today’s expenses may crush any dreams about retirement, and with a second or third mortgage, the costs of paying for housing may last until death.

It’s all very good for financial gurus, bloggers, and authors of books about money management to extol the virtues of saving money, cutting back expenses, and earning more, but sometimes, some families are faced with realities that place them beyond the sphere of accepting mainstream financial advice to improve their financial conditions. Everyone should be out of debt, but an average family earning average salaries with extraordinary needs like those that arise out of autism can’t be addressed by mainstream financial advice.

Experts write about making sacrifices, like forgoing the $6 daily latte and saving $1,500 or so a year. Experts talk about negotiating a raise from your employer. They argue about the best method for getting out of debt. For families dealing with tough financial issues, these discussions are irrelevant. They need support groups, financial assistance, and specialized advice for making the most out of a difficult situation.

And when the biggest issue a family faces is related to health, financial issues become just a secondary concern.

Have you ever dealt with autism or another health issue in your family that required expensive care? Please feel free to share your experiences, particularly with the effect they had on your finances or your philosophy of money.

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I’m an accidental entrepreneur.

I never quite fit in with big hierarchical systems, like public education (as a teacher) and corporations. Getting things done, particularly accomplishing various things the way I wanted to accomplish them, has always been a struggle for me in these structures. I knew from the day I started working at a corporation after leaving a small non-profit arts agency that I would never quite find my bliss or even thrive in that type of environment. I remember thinking that my first job, an administrative type of position, didn’t add any value to the world. The position only existed from a pure corporate need, not a societal need. If the corporation weren’t as big as it was, my job function would be unnecessary.

There were other options for me to consider such as owning an independent school of some type or creating an arts foundation, but those goals required two things I did not have at the time: money and experience. So I stuck it out in the corporation for more years than I would have liked, and I put energy into hobbies like writing and blogging.

My hobby became a business over time, and you can see this in its incarnation as Consumerism Commentary. While all I was doing initially was learning how to become the chief financial officer of my own life, I became the CEO of a company that was helping me attain that first goal. Being a CEO has been outside of my comfort zone, and I’ve made a number of mistakes over the last few years. The experience has been one of growth for me, and I believe I’ll eventually get the hang of running a business and accepting the fact that I am an entrepreneur.

In the past, the word “entrepreneur” has always been associated with a negative connotation for me. I viewed people who called themselves entrepreneurs as people who knew exactly what to say to manipulate others into relationships. They’re savvy, smooth, and disingenuous; they see all communication and relationship-building with a purpose in mind — building their own business and growing wealth for themselves.

Now that I’ve become what other people often call an entrepreneur, I’m dealing with this cognitive dissonance. What other choice did I have, though, to work for myself? I was out-of-place in formally-structured work environments, particularly where I wasn’t free to take whatever approach to my work I wanted, when I wanted. I may have misjudged entrepreneurship, but I still see this type of posturing in my daily experiences operating Consumerism Commentary.

To add another layer to the idea of entrepreneurship, with the employment market still very much in favor of employers, the trend in financial advisory media towards working for oneself has increased in volume — in both senses, quantity and amplitude. I do agree that by finding a way to work for yourself removes employers from the picture, giving you much more control over your financial destiny. (A portion of that control just moves from an employer to potential clients or customers, however.) A typical advice-based article attempts to convince all corporate drones to leave their unfulfilling job and start their own businesses.

Meeting RoomTaken to the extreme, a nation of business owners wouldn’t work. This advice, however, might inspire a small portion of readers to crash through their psychological barriers and find a way to add value directly. Not everyone will be a successful entrepreneur.

I think there are certain personality traits that lend themselves to being a great business owner, first from a Myers-Briggs perspective, where the best business owners likely have a profile of “ENTJ.” (After some quick research, I’m right on the money with this assessment; the ENTJ type is often called The Executive type.) For contrast, I am an “INFP.”

  • Extraversion. Dealing with business issues is much easier for someone on the Extraversion side of the first dimension. This would be someone who feels energized after dealing with people. I find certain aspects of dealing with people on a business level very draining, though I am comfortable being among large groups of people. I am slightly on the Introversion side of this dimension, but a Myers-Briggs Step II assessment reveals that this is slightly different from my core personality, which would call for a stronger Introversion score.
  • Judging. While my personality traits register on the Feeling side of this dimension, a Judging tendency helps people lend themselves towards the same working structures I’ve never been comfortable with. The same trait that encourages the hierarchical approach to business, helpful when working in school systems and large corporations, is also beneficial to running a business. I’ve also been uncomfortable judging the sincerity of people I’ve worked with in the past. Many of my mistakes I alluded to above are related to my impressions of people.
  • Self-motivation. Without a boss providing guidance and deadlines, the responsibility for performing rests only with the business owner. I find that motivation is much easier when you own the process. Like students who perform better in college when they pay their own tuition, an entrepreneur’s business is all about that one person. The ability to design a business based around something you’re passionate about or particularly skilled at will infuse motivation into many people who’ve struggled with this in other employment settings.
  • Forward-looking and big picture. Anyone who is content with repetitive tasks or would prefer to perform a job by following a step-by-step guide may not be best suited for a life of entrepreneurialism. Running your own business requires looking beyond the next step. It involves always considering the big picture and the ability to define goals. Not everyone is suited for this level of thinking.
  • Determination. From the outside, determination can look like stupidity. Being determined in the face of critics, refusing to give up regardless of what someone else might think of your abilities or your business’s potential is essential to becoming successful. Not only that, but considering businesses often fail, being serious about working for yourself requires the ability to brush off the failures and use them as an opportunity to learn about the business and about yourself.
  • A careless attitude towards money. Many entrepreneurs have succeeded because they have had the financial means to go after their dreams. If you’re already wealthy, you can stand to take some risks with your business. Someone less established financially would find it much more difficult to justify the risks. For a business like mine, there was not much financial risk at the beginning. I did, however, spend almost all of my waking and some of my sleeping hours to finding a path to success, to the dismay of those who sought to spend more time with me.

    The concentration on my own business most likely affected, though probably in a small way, my ability to focus on and care about my day job. I may have missed out on promotions because I wasn’t going beyond my job scope, I was using my own time to build a business. In the end, it was the right decision for me, but it could have easily gone another way. I would have ended up with a continued low salary and no income on the side. From a truly financial perspective, starting a business can be a careless risk. Good entrepreneurs accept this or ignore this, or are just unaware of this.

  • Obsessive-compulsive. With the biography of Steven Jobs due out soon, a lot of media attention has surrounded his attitude, particularly his obsessiveness. In the book, Jobs is described as not settling for anything less than perfection all the time, and perfection in his opinion could rarely be defined before him. He would know it when he were to see it.

    From a design perspective, this has shown to be immensely perspective. As Malcolm Gladwell said in his coverage of the biography, “The great accomplishment of Jobs’s life is how effectively he put his idiosyncrasies—his petulance, his narcissism, and his rudeness—in the service of perfection.”

  • Generalist. Today’s economy seems to appreciate specialists over generalists, but I see the opposite as being the better approach to a fulfilling life — and generalism is an approach particularly suited for entrepreneurship. Large companies have the need for specialists, people who are very good, excellent, or best in the world at doing one particular thing. This can be a very narrow skill. An entrepreneur who starts a company from the ground up, particularly with limited resources at the beginning, needs to be able to handle many different types of tasks and goals, at the same time, while holding herself to a very high standard.

    As the business grows, there can be adjustments. When struggling and to build their business, the founders of Yahoo brought in a CEO from the outside because running the company at a certain level required skills the founders couldn’t quite meet on their own. During the start-up phase, however, the entrepreneurs needed to find a way to tackle all the hard tasks. In this respect, being a jack of all trades, master of none is the best approach for an entrepreneur, provided that this particular jack is a very skilled jack in all trades.

Leaving traditional employment structures behind is not for everyone, and the advice we often see telling everyone to quit their job and start a business can be largely ignored. If you aren’t predisposed towards at least a few of these personality traits, success will be very difficult. If, however, you don’t have these traits in your system, you can train yourself to be comfortable with the actions you would be taking if these traits were embedded in your personality. Acting against your personal profile can be very stressful, though, and might lead to an unsatisfying conclusion.

What do you think about being an entrepreneur? Is it something anybody can do with a little practice or are there certain personality traits necessary for success? Would you consider starting your own business if you felt it was a better path to greater financial well-being over time?

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Obama’s Student Loan Plan

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By executive order, President Obama has made a few minor changes to the student loan industry designed to help students and former students with unmanageable student loan debt. Anyone who began their undergraduate studies in 2006 probably did so with the reasonable assumption that they’d have a job after graduation. By the time these students graduated with bachelors’ degrees, the economic situation offered a different reality. The unemployment rate for Americans between the ages of 20 and 24 as of September 2011 was 14.7% according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics.

Last year, the total amount of student loan debt surpassed credit card debt for the first time. Student loans and the value of an education is now such a popular debate that it sparked a discussion at dinner last night with several colleagues. With tuition costs rising much faster than inflation, the only financially responsible path to take is for a family to carefully consider whether the expense of college is worth the benefit. If the only benefit is perceived in terms of financial return on investment (ROI), it can be very difficult in many cases to justify private school tuition.

GraduationOne liberal arts graduate at the table pointed out that there is more to gain from education than immediate high salaries, and this is something that I’ve discussed recently in terms of building human capital. The expense of higher education is subject to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. While citizens of the United States often consider higher education as a right, it is a privilege. While everyone should go to college, or at least have the opportunity to do so, being able to afford a school that matches any student’s skills and desires can be beyond financial reach.

It is possible to earn a degree without going into debt, but when part of the American dream is providing every opportunity for our children to succeed without barriers, finances often don’t stand in the way. To make those dreams happen, someone often needs to sacrifice the future. Today, former students are sacrificing their financial well-being for the opportunity to have completed their degree at their preferred institution.

Last year, Congress agreed to some changes to the student loan industry to help students and former students struggling with student loan debt, and Obama’s “Pay As You Earn” plan expands on these benefits for students with federal student loans, not private loans, with at least one loan borrowed directly from the government and one borrowed from a bank.

  • In 2012, borrowers will be able to reduce their monthly payments from 15% to 10% of their discretionary spending. The original law waited until 2014 to make this change.
  • In 2012, borrowers will be able to forgive the balance of their loans after 20 years of faithful payments, up from 25 years. Last year’s law would have put this into effect in 2014.
  • Student loan consolidation will return, allowing current and recent students to save up to 50 basis points on their loans.

The student loan industry is dysfunctional. The availability of student loans makes it possible for colleges and universities to raise tuition without significantly affecting demand. By not solving the problem of rising tuition prices, the government gives a boost to the organizations, both semi-public and private, that finance and underwrite student loans. Furthermore, student loan debt is not forgivable in bankruptcy, unlike almost all other forms of debt. In a volatile job market, it’s riskier to have a student loan than it is to have credit card debt.

I’d like to have children at some point, and I’d like for them to have the opportunity to attend college. I would not like for them to need to sacrifice a significant portion of their future in order for them to receive the education that’s best for them. At this rate in two decades, a college education at a private school will be unaffordable for middle class families without student loan debt that requires a lifetime of servitude.

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Bureau of Labor Statistics, CBS News, New York Times

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Best Holiday Toys 2011

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Christmas and Hanukkah are right around the corner, and if you have children, they might already be looking forward to the holiday season. Gift-giving is a big part of the holiday season, as it has been for a long time. Commercialism is the most popular American religion as we approach the end of the year. Stores will do their best to attract shoppers this year with sales for the best holiday toys and displays designed to take advantage of all the tricks that psychology has discovered about retail suggestion. The television commercials will be attacking children directly.

Some families succeed at resisting the materialistic urge, making the holiday season about something other than receiving presents. I’d like to think that when I have children their desires will be deeper than toys that will receive attention for a week then be stored in a closet. I am a realist, though, and considering I’m prone to enjoy “toys” like cameras and electronics, I’m sure my kids, not being able to escape their peers and their influence, will be desirous of the things most marketed in their general direction.

Confounding the problem but possibly easing the stress for parents who do want to indulge their children’s materialistic dreams, CNN has assembled a list of the most popular holiday toys. There are a few that I probably would have enjoyed as a kid. Here are some of the more interesting items from the list as well as a few others I’ve added after researching this year’s interesting toys for kids and young adults.

These prices are current as of November 1, 2011.

Angry Birds: Knock on Wood Game. Angry Birds is a highly addictive, award-winning game, generally for mobile devices. With this new edition, the game crosses over to the real world. While it isn’t as portable as a cell phone app, it will, at least for a short time, get your kids to look at something other than a small electronic display.

Today’s price: $26.98.

Hot Wheels Wall Tracks Starter Set. What I like about this toy is that it takes the matchbox car idea to the next dimension — literally. No longer are kids confined to designing tracks that operate in mostly two dimensions (allowing for hills and loops). These tracks can be applied to walls, increasing the opportunity for creative civil engineering.

Today’s price: $27.99.

Vtech – InnoTab Interactive Learning Tablet. While the Angry Birds game coaxing kids away from their mobile devices, this tablet draws them back to electronics, particularly appealing to kids who see their parents playing with their iPads. Apps on this tablet include an e-book reader, a calendar, and a coloring book.

Today’s price: $79.00.

LeapFrog LeapPad Explorer Learning Tablet. One table for kids obviously isn’t enough. Like the InnoTab, this device offers educational apps and games, but there are more apps available for purchase. The applications are focused on learning and will adjust to your kids’ reading ability. The device also includes a camera.

Today’s price: $99.

Lazer Stunt Chaser Dragonfire Remote Control Car. Kids without cats in their household don’t experience the joy of having something chase after laser spots. Rather than getting a cat, take a look at this remote control car that automatically chases the laser. Rather than the standard remote control devices, this car comes with a laser pointer as well as a ramp. This car will do more tricks than your cat.

Today’s price: $59.95.

Logo Board Game. Perhaps leading to a good lesson about how people, particularly kids and young adults, are influenced by branding, this game pits family member against family member in an effort to recognize the most brands. A good logo is instantly recognizable, but what’s the effect of a memorable logo when we go shopping? A recognized logo makes us feel comfortable, and shoppers like that feeling. A game like this further enhances ability to recognize the logos. I wonder if the brands need to pay in order to be included in the game; it’s something of an advertisement.

Today’s price: $19.84

Qwirkle. This is a family game where the object is to use the provided tiles to create lines of matching shape or matching color. I suppose it’s a mix between Uno, dominoes, and Scrabble. I’ve played this before and I can see a family enjoying the game. It doesn’t take very long to finish.

Today’s price: $17.69

Polaroid 300 Polaroid 300 Instant Camera. Everything old is new again. Technology has advanced so much that digital cameras are inexpensive. Even the most recent batch of phones have lenses and sensors that can produce decent photographs. But there’s something special about a toy camera that can produce a print almost immediately. Polaroid is bringing analog back. Keep in mind that you’ll need to buy film separately, and at $1.30 a print, instant photography is not exactly an inexpensive hobby.

Today’s price: $89.98

Sesame Street Let’s Rock Elmo. What would the holiday season be without yet another Elmo toy? This year, the “Let’s Rock” Elmo will likely be hot. Elmo comes with a microphone, tambourine, and bongos, and can interact with the instruments. Other instruments, also with interactivity, are sold separately. If keyboards or guitars capture your child’s imagination better, the options are available.

Today’s price: $57.21

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Top 5 Movie Actor Salaries

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Most theatrical performers become professional actors because they have a talent or a love for what they do. They have a drive to entertain, and they can’t imagine spending their limited time on this planet doing something other than what they love. By the time they’re adults, unless they have seen outstanding success as a ... Continue reading this article…

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Florida’s Beach Property Boom: A Real Estate Lesson

by Dr. Dean Burke

This is a guest article by Dr. Dean Burke, author of The Millionaire Nurse Blog. Many years ago, someone I knew was fascinated with the real estate market in Florida, and he set up an investment company to allow others to invest through him. He promised his investors 20 percent returns. Needless to say, I didn’t ... Continue reading this article…

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Searching For Love and Money In All The Right Places

by Financial Samurai

This is a guest article by Sam, the author of the blog Financial Samurai and the founder of the Yakezie Blog Network. He writes a column for Consumerism Commentary every other Tuesday. This article serves as an introduction to this new bi-weekly column. At age 15, I stopped growing and I remember being so disappointed. ... Continue reading this article…

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How To Do What You Love And Get Paid – $1,000 or More a Month

by Ramit Sethi

This is a guest article by Ramit Sethi, author of the best-selling personal finance book, I Will Teach You to Be Rich. He recently launched a new program, Earn1k, to help people earn more money on the side. To get a free mini-course on earning more, sign up here. Ramit will also be our guest ... Continue reading this article…

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