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It’s no surprise that retailers track your purchases. It’s obvious at the grocery store, particularly if you sign up for the supermarket’s loyalty discount program. If you provide your address, you’ll receive coupons and ads tailored specifically to your buying habits. My local supermarket allows customers to sign up anonymously; the coupons are offered right at the point of sale rather than through the mail.

Retailers use shopping habits to profile shoppers. These profiles can be very accurate. When you have a store that sells more than just groceries and wants to be the one-stop shop for every single item one might need for living — like Target — mathematical and neuroscience geniuses can with a high percentage of certainty determine your age, sex, marital status, whether you have children, how far from the store you live, whether you have children or are planning to, and what websites you visit. They can gather data linked to a personal shopping identification number by taking multiple factors into account, including the products you buy, surveys your complete online, and the ads you use and don’t use.

TargetCombine this information with personal data that can be purchased, like what you talk about online, your political stances, and your charitable giving, there is no limit to the level of precision of your customer profile.

An article in the New York Times explains how a customer’s subtle shopping habits — perhaps buying more lotion than usual — resulted in the algorithm determining there was a high probability that she was pregnant. Target began sending ads to her house for products related to babies and pregnancy.

After seeing the ads arrive in the mail, the girl’s father stormed into the store to speak to the manager, blaming him for trying to convince his daughter in high school to become pregnant. Apparently, she was pregnant, but hadn’t told her father yet. She may not have been overtly purchasing baby-related items at Target to trigger this, but you can’t keep secrets from mathematics.

Here’s how that can happen:

[W]hen some customers were going through a major life event, like graduating from college or getting a new job or moving to a new town, their shopping habits became flexible in ways that were both predictable and potential gold mines for retailers. The study found that when someone marries, he or she is more likely to start buying a new type of coffee. When a couple move into a new house, they’re more apt to purchase a different kind of cereal. When they divorce, there’s an increased chance they’ll start buying different brands of beer.

Consumers going through major life events often don’t notice, or care, that their shopping habits have shifted, but retailers notice, and they care quite a bit. At those unique moments, Andreasen wrote, customers are “vulnerable to intervention by marketers.” In other words, a precisely timed advertisement, sent to a recent divorcee or new homebuyer, can change someone’s shopping patterns for years.

And among life events, none are more important than the arrival of a baby. At that moment, new parents’ habits are more flexible than at almost any other time in their adult lives. If companies can identify pregnant shoppers, they can earn millions.

The changes can be subtle. It’s not buying diapers in bulk that triggers the retailer’s pregnancy sensors. It’s the small changes in shopping habits that may not seem obvious to anyone other than the mathematicians and scientists who understand behavioral data and have applied it to customer profiling.

Do retailers have too much information on customers’ behavior, or are you comfortable knowing these companies can paint an accurate picture of your life and use this information to market directly to you? Do consumers have the right to a somewhat private life?

Photo: Patrick Hoesly
New York Times

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Today on the Consumerism Commentary Podcast, Bryan J Busch talks to Jonathan Zschau, author of the book Buying and Owning a Mac: Secrets Apple Doesn’t Want You to Know.

They discuss the staggering frequency of commercials in daily life, how it’s easier to avoid than resist the temptation to shop, and the convincing argument that money and possessions don’t make people any happier.

Consumerism Commentary Podcast
Buying and Owning a Mac: Secrets Apple Doesn’t Want You to Know: S06E09 / 163

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Table of contents

Buying and Owning a Mac on Amazon.com[00:00] Introduction from Bryan J Busch
[00:34] Interview with Jonathan Zschau
[00:46] The right time to buy a new Mac, and good reasons to choose an older model
[06:16] AppleCare isn’t a good idea for everyone
[11:25] Methods for preventing theft or retrieving a stolen device
[15:17] Never hesitate to ask Apple to fix a problem
[19:27] When does the Lemon Law come into play?
[22:54] End

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Do you lie to your spouse or significant other about money?

Money may be one of the most popular issues causing strife in a relationship, but deeper issues are usually communication and values. Lying about money is one way to ensure that a relationship will fail over time, but for most people, small, occasional lies do little harm and help to ensure a smooth coexistence. According to a 2010 survey, 80% of married people keep some secrets from their partners about money.

When it comes to frivolous spending, many people don’t want to tell their partner out of embarrassment or because they know that it might start an argument due to a clash of values. 24% of husbands and 43% of wives lie about spending on clothing and accessories, 19% of men and 8% of women lie about spending on alcohol, and 12% of men and 21% of women lie about spending on gifts.

If a couple doesn’t agree on some ground rules, selfish spending can become an issue when it is inevitably discovered. Different couples have different approaches to managing household income and expenses.
When relationships decide to combine finances — or to keep finances separate — setting some ground rules can help.

CoupleIn some states, marriage automatically combines finances from a legal standpoint. While a couple could decide to keep their finances separate, according to the law, all involved money, assets, and debt is owned and owed equally by each partner. The decision has been made for you in terms of the law, but you could still choose to operate finances separately for practical reasons.

If a couple decides to keep finances separate, implicit in this decision is for each partner to allow the other to make decisions with their own money, even if it affects the other partner. Perhaps one ground rule is necessary: keep your partner informed of anything that might affect the other. For couples who agree to keep finances separate, trust inherent must be strong.

For couples who decide to combine finances, the ground rules will be more involved.

1. In two-income households, each partner should contribute to shared expenses fairly. To contribute “fairly” can have different interpretations, so couples should decide what that means. For couples with roughly equal income, it could be fair for each partner to contribute exactly half of the rent or mortgage payment to this particular bill. It could be fair for each to dedicate half of the cable bill and other utility bills.

For a couple with widely divergent incomes, it might make more sense for each partner to contribute a percentage of his or her income to each expense, so the bills are paid according to the ratio of one person’s income to the other. If one partner earns $150,000 per year and the other earns $30,000 per year, should they both need to contribute $1,000 a month to the mortgage payment? It might make more sense if the partner earning more contributes $1,667 and the lower-income partner contributes $333 per month.

2. Each partner should contribute to shared savings. According to his or her ability, some remaining income should be saved in a high-yield online savings account. Whether each partner contributes the same amount or the same percentage of his or her income, both partners should agree on the importance of saving money for future flexibility and financial independence as well as saving for emergencies.

3. Have a debt repayment policy. More often than not, one person enters a relationship with more debt than the other. Decide whether paying off pre-relationship debt is a responsibility of the entire couple or just the individual who brought it in, and debt repayment should be a prioritized goal. Any debt accrued since the combination of finances should be considered joined debt, in line with the ownership of all finances. Debt payment, like all expenses, could be divided equally or by the best of his or her ability to pay back based on income.

4. Do you need a prenuptial agreement? This is something a couple should decide before getting married. There is a stigma with these agreements, and they shouldn’t be used for one partner to establish financial control over the other. Many people would simply be offended if their partner asked them to sign such an agreement, but for a business owner, prenuptial agreements can protect the business and shareholders would expect the owner to take all precautions to do so. If one person wants to sign an agreement and the other does not, there could be a barrier of trust on both sides of the relationship.

5. Set up a Fun Fund and don’t ask questions. If income and cash flow allow for it, even a couple who combines finances could benefit from each partner keeping small, private savings accounts. These can be used for spending on some items that the other partner might judge as frivolous, like hobbies or clothing. It’s also a great opportunity for spending on gifts for the other, as spending from a private account is the only way to surprise your partner. The Fun Fund should be a place where you can have the freedom to spend as you see fit without affecting the finances of the relationship.

Of course, the ability to keep a private fund relies on the strength of the relationship. Each partner must be able to trust the other. If you feel your partner may be cheating on you, it may be difficult to allow even a portion of spending to be undisclosed.

6. Stick to a budget. For a single person, a budget can be simple to follow. Expenses are relatively well-defined, and income can be, too, in most jobs and career paths. Adding a new person to the mix, as is the case when a couple combines finances, is adding another variable. A flexible budget can help a couple feel free to spend on what they want after the needs are covered, and in tight situations, can allow couples to borrow from themselves to cover the necessities. A couple who combines finances should agree to stick to the plan.

7. No lying about finances that affect the relationship. The Fun Fund allows for expenses that don’t fit into the couple’s financial plan. That should alleviate the necessity for the small lies that happen when one partner doesn’t want to admit to a financial decision for fear of disappointing the other partner or starting an argument. Keeping the Fun Fund relatively small means that spending in this fund shouldn’t affect the overall relationship and should prevent one partner from single-handedly making a decision that causes trouble. Still, with both partners having access to the couple’s money, there’s an opportunity for lying. By setting a ground rule to avoid this practice, couples would discuss the important spending decisions in advance and learn how to agree on the important financial values, like saving for retirement, paying for a child’s education, or supporting an elder relative.

What other ground rules do you or would you set with your partner?

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In American society in the past, when it was more common for a family to have one income, that income might have covered the family’s expenses that correspond to the expenses that two incomes pay for now. That family, if typical, often consisted of a father, a mother, and two children. The one income was enough for the necessities and, if this was a middle class family, some additional expenses. For a variety of reasons, two-income families are more common now. The question of whether the two incomes represent money for the whole family or whether there should be separation between the funds contributed by each income-earner.

New couples are often faced with this decision. Some will choose to ignore the issue and never communicate about money, which could lead to other problems after time. Those who do confront the situation have a number of options. Although some states make the decision for a couple from a legal standpoint, there is still the issue of how money will be handled practically.

Three options for combining finances

Here are a few of the possible options for managing two (or more) incomes in a family.

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