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Improving your financial situation requires more than just trying harder. People who write financial websites offering advice often think or imply that the reason for financial misfortune is ignorance of the basics. Recently, there was one website that claimed that the only thing people need to know was spend less than you earn, as if taking this to heart is the single solution to getting your finances on the right track.

There is no switch that you can just turn on, for the most part. In some cases, particularly where someone experiences a major emotional setback — “hits rock bottom” — changing your direction in place works, but that could mean losing a house or destroying a family relationship. A devastating situation isn’t guaranteed for everyone and you may not want to wait until you reach such a low point.

MoneyIf you’ve been living in debt for the entirety of your adult life, you may have an epiphany of some sort and turn yourself around with just the knowledge that your net worth needs to increase at the end of each month in order to become financially independent, but for most people, changing behavior takes much more than desire.

There are certain things you can do to help yourself — and your brain — accept that you need to start improving your financial situations for the sake of your future self and family.

Replace old habits with new habits

Much behavior can be reduced to patterns and habits. Breaking a habit, like emotional spending, can be incredibly difficult because of the comfort that has developed through years of participating in the activity. Shoppers who derive pleasure from spending money may be in uncontrollable debt, and use shopping in difficult times to feel better. Of course, with more shopping and spending more money than is available, this person could experience emotionally difficult situations due to the lack of finances, yet still seek to cure those negative feelings by shopping.

Replace the reaction of shopping with something that makes you feel better without damaging your personal finances. Exercising releases chemicals in the brain that, for many people, enable happy feelings, so one of the best options for replacing a bad financial habit is exercise. Whenever you feel the urge to do something that you know is harmful to your finances, choose to run around the block or work out in a gym.

It might be difficult to make this change at first, but the goal is to make a new habit that can be triggered in place of your old habit. For some time, you may want to overlap both reactions, but after several weeks of consciously using your new habit, you should be able to successfully replace the old.

Resist temptation by making it difficult or inconvenient

Some financial advisers and gurus suggest freezing your credit card in ice or keeping your emergency fund at a bank that’s difficult to access. The more barriers you can place between yourself and your bad financial behaviors (in this case, using your credit card or dipping into your emergency fund), the more success you’ll have in avoiding these temptations.

Combining barriers with habits can be successful, too. Rather than purchasing items from Amazon on impulse, create a habit of waiting 24 hours between your desire and your action. This barrier of time gives you the opportunity to re-evaluate your decision. Twenty-four hours later, you may be in a different mood and decide that you don’t need the item you intended to purchase as bad as you thought you did.

Remove barriers to good financial behavior

While you’re adding barriers to prevent bad financial behavior, you may want to think about whether you already have barriers preventing you from making good financial decisions. Although the stock market has been on a rally lately, medium-term performance has not been great, and the investing industry has attracted a bad reputation through and following the recession and credit crunch. The fear of losing money may be preventing young people from investing in the stock market.

Many investment advisers say that you should evaluate your risk and only invest in a way that makes you comfortable with your possible losses, but an investor’s level of risk aversion could be tied to his or her feelings about the stock market. Risk profile measured this way would then fluctuate. One possible outcome from feeling good about the stock market and willing to take on risk during times of confidence about Wall Street while feeling nervous when the media is taking the financial industry to task is the unprofitable accidental strategy of buying high and selling low.

If you’re young and would like to save for retirement, with a goal of leaving your work behind one day with enough money to pay your expenses, you can’t ignore the stock market. A diversified portfolio may not make you rich over time, but there’s a good chance you’ll be able to retire.

Change your words

The words you choose to describe your financial behaviors will have an effect on your approach to your money. For example, take “investment” and “expense.” I mentioned this phenomenon in my editor’s note after Jennifer Calonia’s article about wedding planning and spending.

One way people often justify or rationalize expenses is by calling them “investments.” For example, one might say, “Spending a large amount of money for a wedding is an investment in your relationship.” Someone else might say, “Going to a private university is an investment in your future.” You should only invest in something when you receive an asset in return, and you are planning for the value of that asset to increase over time.

You may be able to argue that the asset you receive in return for a wedding is a partner who stays with you for the rest of your life. You may receive an emotional asset in return. But in order to be truthful with yourself, consider whether you’re using the term “investment” to justify paying more for a ceremony than you need to. As I’ve written previously, spending money for once-in-a-lifetime event is not a bad way to spend money if you can afford it, but calling it an investment is just a way for you to feel better about your resulting lack of money.

In return for your expense for your college-level education, you may receive assets: your ability to earn an increased income over time when compared with someone with just a high school diploma, possibly, cognitive skills that help you succeed in the world regardless of your job, career, or income, and, possibly, connections that you retain for the rest of your life, helping you with career moves and friendships. The values of these things may increase over time, making the term “investment” more legitimate. The trouble appears when you pay a higher price for education than necessary, calling it an investment.

If you ask anyone who has any experience with finance, a house is an asset and a mortgage is a liability. Yet, some financial gurus continue to insist that a house is a liability. This doesn’t make any sense from a purely financial perspective, but if you look at the connotations of the words instead of the meanings — or if you look at the broader sense of “liability” rather than its financial sense — these gurus might have an argument. A house that does not create cash flow for you (that is, a house that is not an investment with rental income) should be avoided as much as possible. Anything that costs you money is a liability in the sense that is drags your finances down. Although it’s not financially accurate, considering bad assets “liabilities” encourages you to eliminate as many of these as possible and to replace them with income-producing assets.

Politicians and activists use word choice to influence their constituents’ opinions all the time. That’s why we have terms like “pro-life” and “American Recovery and Reinvestment Act.” It’s a form of manipulation, but if you’re using this technique to benefit your financial situation, no one can blame you for misdirection.

Using these tricks — replacing old habits with new habits, adding barriers to bad behaviors, removing barriers to good choices, and changing the words to describe what you do — can help you overcome the difficulty of putting what you know about “spending less than you earn” into effect. There’s a bridge between knowledge and action, and unfortunately, many people mistakenly think that the reason so many people in the United States are suffering financially is due to lack of knowledge. The prescribe solutions like money management class in high school and other financial literacy initiatives. Having more information is not going to solve financial illiteracy. On an individual or family level, taking steps to modify behavior will certainly move finances in the right direction.

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This is a guest article by Jennifer Calonia, Junior Editor at GoBankingRates. In the article, the author helps couples in search of their dream wedding decide which expenses are worth paying more money for.

The pressure to plan a perfectly executed wedding is a monumental undertaking, especially for those lacking a savings fund or a generous benefactor. Instead of focusing efforts — and funds — on every wedding detail, couples can save thousands just by allocating funds strategically.

While saving money on wedding planning is a common dilemma to contend with, some view their wedding as a once-in-a-lifetime investment, which is why certain key details merit a splurge to help keep the day memorable.

The wedding brideBeing able to recognize when to save or splurge on wedding elements makes all the difference when investing in the big day. Despite the minute intricacies involved in wedding planning, particular wedding to-dos are simply not that vital.

For the perfectionist, it may be difficult to accept that a limited budget often means sacrifice in one way or another. However, in letting go of the little things during the planning phase, couples can put earned savings toward big-picture expenses and possible have ample funds to work with well into their first years as newlyweds.

The wedding dress: splurge

Brides should not sell themselves short in the dress category, as being comfortable and confident on the big day sets the tone for the entire event. All eyes will be on the dress, but that’s not to say that tapping into a 401(k) account is merited for a designer gown.

To find a quality wedding gown at a value, visit sample sales, trunk shows, and bridal expos in the area. These limited time events offer discounts of 75 percent or more for the perfect “splurge” on a reasonably priced dress.

Invitations and paper goods: save

If traditional wedding invitations are a must for your main event, steer clear of costly stationary, calligraphy and unnecessary letterpress services. These additions come at a premium price as most designs are done completely by-hand. Calligraphy invitations can churn out $2 to $10 per envelope, equating to hundreds of dollars pulled from more important things like the dress budget and the venue budget.

As an alternative, couples can turn to laser-printed invitations and basic paper types from stationary stores, as they have gone a long way in terms of their aesthetic quality.

Photographer and videographer: splurge

It’s sad to say, but the ceremony and reception go by so fast, it’ll be difficult to remember every single highlight of the wedding — this is where the photographer and videographer work their magic.

Appropriating a generous portion of the wedding budget to these key players ensure that all the sweat and tears that went into planning the wedding are well documented for you to reminisce about 50 years later.

For added value, make sure to negotiate packages (think about services included in the package, rather than just the price) with both the photographer and videographer. Try also purchasing a CD of the edited wedding images so you can make your own prints for family and friends on the cheap.

Flower girl’s flower: save

To save a few bucks, skip the long-stem roses for the flower girl to toss down the aisle. No one will really be paying attention to what she’s throwing anyway, so why not save money in this category?

Rose petals can cut down florist expenses and even fake rose petals from a local craft store can replicate this time-honored tradition.

Wedding favors: save

Couples should do themselves a favor and opt out of extravagant wedding favors for reception attendees. Among the many weddings I’ve attended, I’ve probably only kept about 25 percent of the favors I’ve received.

Wedding favors sometimes even go unnoticed in the midst of the excitement. While favors act as a take-away for guests, spending less on favors and using saved funds toward things like lighting and venue can give them a much more memorable experience.

Wedding planner: splurge

Wedding planners carry the misconception of being a luxury expense among newly engaged couples. While it’s true that planners are another service to cut a check out for, their industry know-how can help couples determine the best venue, vendors and creative ideas with a specific budget in mind.

Also, there is less risk of being dazzled into unnecessary upgrades by vendors looking to squeeze an extra buck out of couples’ pockets.

It’s important to keep a level head when planning the details of the wedding, despite being on cloud nine. In the long-run, tactical money management during the process can keep couple on track with other big milestones to come, including buying a home and starting a family.

Editor’s note: It’s dangerous to refer to an expense as an investment. An investment implies that one is not spending money, but trading money for an asset that will, if one is lucky or smart, appreciates over time. Perhaps a relationship is an asset that appreciates, but a wedding is not the representation of that asset. A wedding is an expense, not an investment, pure and simple.

That said, the best type of expenses are related to once-in-a-lifetime experiences. The word “investment” is a trigger that allows people who spend what they can’t afford to rationalize their behavior. Feel free to spend what you can afford or what you like on your wedding, but I wouldn’t refer to a wedding as an investment.

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Reflecting on My 2011 Goals

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A little less than a year ago, I mentioned that 2011 would be the year that everything changes. It’s a phrasing that I borrowed from Torchwood, but it was relevant for me as well as to the television program’s concept. I’ll have more to say about this year’s changes later.

At the time I created my goals for the year, it was difficult to predict how well my business, primarily the operation of Consumerism Commentary, would perform. I had just left my day job to work for myself full-time. It was a decision that I had been considering for several years, once I realized that running a website could be a profitable way to live. On reflection I should have made this change several years ago, as my business has long been able to sustain my finances. I first accepted this fact a few years ago when I moved the nicer apartment in which I live now. It’s not expensive, but it would have been unaffordable with just my day job income.

Even after this, it took several years for me to be comfortable with the idea of relying solely on that revenue. I knew I was in a risky business, and the ability to generate revenue from advertising was shown to be even riskier a few months later.

Without much warning, several other personal finance bloggers lost up to 80 percent of their revenue when the nature of the visitors to those websites changed. Some websites, on the other hand, were unharmed or even benefited, but the risk was never eliminated. When I created my goals and resolutions for 2011, I had risk in mind, but perhaps not as much risk as I should have. Nevertheless, looking back at the past year’s success, one might conclude I was much too conservative.

Income

At the end of last year, I remained conservative when planning for income changes in 2011. I would consider 2011 successful if I increased my income by $100,000 for the year. I exceeded this goal in 2011.

Net worth

I recognized net worth would be difficult to predict when I designed these goals last year. It would be far too dependent on my income, and to a lesser extent, the stock market. I ended the year with about $538,000 on my balance sheet. Calculated using the same method which includes the income generated by the business but does not include the value of the business, I was able increase this number beyond my goal. I will be more specific when I look at my end-of-year balance sheet. I far surpassed my conservative goal of increase my net worth by $275,000.

Investments

At the end of last year when I created these goals, I focused on retirement. As a business owner, it’s hard to know exactly what retirement may mean. When you work for a corporation, it’s easy to fall into the usual expectations for retirement, working for a set number of years until retirement age, leaving your work behind at that time to move to Florida and begin collecting benefits from the government and distributions from your retirement accounts. Working for myself, and particularly working in a business where the future could change at any moment, it’s harder to define what life would be like many years in advance.

Nevertheless, I set the conservative goal of saving 10 percent of my income for retirement. I was able to maximize my contribution to an Individual 401(k) throughout the year while investing regularly in a taxable investment account. Although, I spent only a small percentage of my income each month with no major purchases throughout the year, much of what I have saved is not necessarily designated for retirement, nor is it invested at all.

A couple weeks ago, I met with a Certified Financial Planner from Vanguard Flagship Services, and I have a strategy in place to invest for the medium and long term that’s appropriate for my particular financial situation.

Savings

As I mentioned above, having an aggressively increasing income paired with only modestly increasing expenses helped me build my net worth and my savings this year. With some aspects of my life in flux this year, I decided it was not yet a good time to settle down and purchase a house. This is a decision that is about more than finances. The decision to buy a house, for me, depends on long-term plans for family and career, and these are aspects of life I have not quite yet determined. When I renewed my lease on my apartment in central New Jersey this past summer, I paid for the option to break the lease without penalty at any time, thinking I might have other aspects of my life sorted out before it was again time to renew in 2012. There is still time left.

Savings goals other than a house still rely on other decisions in my life, including whether to have children.

Charity

Throughout the year, I’ve been contributing to my charitable gift fund, a donor-advised fund at Fidelity, that gives me the flexibility to grant gifts to non-profit organizations throughout the year. In the past, I’ve given to a program at my undergraduate university and the non-profit organization I used to work for. This year, I also added a local arts organization to my list.

Photography

As we get beyond the purely financial goals and resolutions, it’s easier to see where I’ve failed. I planned on finding ways to make photography a larger part of my life this year. I’ve enjoyed photography throughout my life, though it’s never been a core passion of mine. That has started to change over the past few years, and I’ve taken several classes to improve my craft. I wanted to dedicate some time every month to gaining more experience, particularly with portraiture. Unfortunately, the success of my business has come at the cost of not being able to dedicate as much time to this endeavor as I would have liked.

Professional photography is not the right choice for me. I would never want to photograph a wedding, and that seems to be the basic income-generating activity for most freelance photographers. I’d prefer to ignore the business aspect of photography completely and focus on creating images I would enjoy. While I didn’t have the time to dedicate to this in 2011, I’m looking at ways to restructure my life to make this more of a possibility in 2012.

Personal health

My health has been on my mind all year. Most likely a result of not having a large lunch in a corporate cafeteria almost every weekday, I’ve lost about five pounds this year. I’m not significantly overweight to start with, but I was definitely not at my ideal weight. I didn’t meet my goal of losing fifteen pounds, so I still have more to lose. The exercise I was getting one year ago was interrupted by a major snow storm from December into January, and it killed my momentum for some time. A few months ago, I joined a gym, and recently travel interrupted my progress.

Getting exercise seems to be more successful with assistance and motivation from a partner, and that’s something I just don’t have right now. All of the above are clearly excuses. The only motivation that matters comes from myself, and if I’m serious about getting into shape and losing weight, I just need to do it.

From a financial perspective, it would be hard to call 2011 anything but a success, but with a broader view I haven’t done much to change my life for the better this year. If 2011 was the year for focusing on my business, 2012 will be the year to focus on myself. In a few days, I’ll post a year-end look at my finances which will include numbers and other details, and after that, I’ll present my goals and resolutions for 2012.

Did you reach your goals and complete your resolutions for the year?

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Last week, a photograph by Andreas Gurksy, Rhein II, was sold at auction for $4,338,500 to an anonymous buyer. The record-breaking sale allowed Gursky to reclaim fame as the artist whose work has claimed the highest price paid for a photograph. This auction was a secondary market sale. As in most art auctions commanding high prices and press attention, the artist sees little if any financial benefit.

What do you think of the image? Is it art? Is it art you would consider to be worth $4 million? $1 million?

Rhein II

It wasn’t this lowly jpeg that was sold. Seeing the print — considered a very important part of the art of photography — is an experience in itself. To see this work in person, you would be gazing at a print eight feet by twelve feet. Even today’s relatively advanced digital cameras, devices used by professional wedding photographers and amateurs like me around the world, wouldn’t be able to produce a print that size with quality and resolution. This image was most likely produced with a large format camera using analog film.

There’s only one way to determine the value of a work of art: offer it to a wide audience of potential art buys and determine what at least one of them would be willing to pay to take it home. Looking beyond the simple supply-and-demand answer, any piece of art is able to fetch a certain price at auction due to only a few factors. Some aspects moving a price aren’t related to the specific piece of art as much as the artist.

  • Buyers look for a works by photographers who have a history of creating art in demand by galleries and collectors.
  • Photographers who were trained by other artists who have been successful are also rewarded for their potential.
  • In most cases, buyers believe that the art will be worth more in the future, and view the purchase as an investment.

Some reasons behind a price relate to the process of creating the art. It’s only recently that photography has become accepted as art, color photography even more recently, and many artists still consider photographs with digital manipulation in editing software like Photoshop not art at all. Photography still has a long way to go before it’s fully accepted alongside oil painting and sculpture as art. That’s reflected in value as well; while this $4 million price for Rhein II is a nice sum, it falls short of the Running Man I sculpture by Alberto Giacometti, which fetched a sale price of $104.3 million recently.

The fact that this image was captured using a large format camera, a process that is significantly more involved than pointing and shooting, helps to add to the value, but many photographers, particularly landscape artists and architectural photographers, still use large format cameras. The type of camera cannot be the sole reason driving the value of art, but it is an important factor when an artist is striving for the best quality possible.

Although this image looks simple, a lot of planning went into its creation. Artists carefully plan the time and place, bring the right equipment, and without a digital camera, do not have the luxury of taking a flurry of snapshots to choose the best image of one hundred on a memory card. Often, a work of art is part of a series or a study on a particular theme, and in the case of Rhein II, the photograph falls within a series about the river in Germany.

Ken Rockwell, a respected but divisive photographer who has one of the most popular websites about the art, has this to say about the photograph.

It is valuable because it is art, not just a photo. Rules are worthless. If [Gurksy] was just a photographer instead of an artist, he would have been crippled by the nonexistent “rule of thirds” myth, and put the horizon someplace else. In his case, the horizon slams right through the middle, which adds to the power by giving a sense of unease. Our minds ask “what’s up with this? This is so barren and empty; where is this place?”

Likewise, if it’s not captured on film, it is not art. Artists create art, not photographers. Artists may choose to work in photography, but being an artist is what matters above all…

If shot with a digital Nikon or Canon like amateur photographers, it would not have been art. If he used a zoom lens or many modern prime lenses, their distortion would have subtly curved the lines, weakening and destroying the artist’s work.

Ken doesn’t point out that Gursky did digitally manipulate the image after making the capture. The view portrayed by the image above doesn’t exist in nature. Gursky removed people, dogs, and a building from the captured image to create the art.

Nevertheless, the image is so simple that it looks like something anyone can capture, standing beside any river in the world on any dreary day. One nature of art is the ability to stir emotions in a spectator, even if that emotion is anger in response to a sale price, frustration that an image of mostly straight lines and solid colors can be considered art, jealousy that another photographer’s images wouldn’t fetch such a price, confusion about why it’s acceptable for some digitally manipulated images to be considered art while others aren’t, or questioning whether the image is art at all.

This describes the industry reaction to the sale. The Luminous Landscape forums are buzzing with comments about this sale and the image from professional photographers — mostly commercial photographers who dabble with artistic photography, specializing in medium and large format cameras.

Why spend so much money on art?

With so many problems in the world, why spend $4 million on one piece of art rather than using that money to build a school or feed starving children? This is a fair question to ask. At this high level of sophisticated art acquisition, there is a big emphasis on the investment aspect of art. With the photographer still living and with photographic art still being rare compared to other visual art methods, there is a good possibility of the value of this work increasing over the very long term.

Although it’s common to question the intent of purchasing a work of art for $4 million, investors who dedicate the same amount of money to a company to become an owner of that company usually won’t face the same questions about the virtue of their investment. Both buying art and buying a company are capitalistic endeavors, but while the value of a company can be easily justified by looking at a set of financial reports, the art is more difficult to rationalize. Regardless of the reasons, the value of a company or a work of art is whatever someone is willing to pay.

By investing in art, it sends a signal that art, in general, is worth society’s attention. Art is an important part of civilized society, and both reacts to and inspires thought that drives a society forward.

Photo: Andreas Gursky/Christie’s Images, Ltd., 2011
NPR, Seattle PI, Ken Rockwell

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Materialistic People Less Happy in Marriages But Have More Money

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$100 Memorial Day Giveaway

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