Smart Women Marry for Money, and Here's Why

I rarely comment but I agree with this article although, I wish I have read it sooner.

I’m with a man 19 yrs older than me, but that is because I find him interesting and intelligent and loved him. Before any of you judge me let me be clear that I have higher education and better portfolio that him: have my own house, a sizable bank account and great job. It was a red flag to me that he was not the type of person that thinks of financial stability- he’s happy with his 401k and SS. I am not. I have ambitions. But because the world tells me to love love love and be that good girl I buried this thought deep within. When I got pregnant 2 yrs ago, he did not even bother to adjust for me. I left a lucrative job, waste my savings as I am still the one paying for my bills and mortgage while I stay at home take care of the baby. It sucks. He won’t pay for anything except for food. Won’t even get me a treat for massage or to get a haircut. I left him.

I know from the comments sections that men thinks that women are bitches that wanted to get what they worked for. But there are women who, like me, can bring more on the table and will be more than willing to share it with you if we could only have same goals.

I am a woman and I personally am disgusted that you find it okay for gold diggers to marry greedy people who are motivated by money only for the money. That takes away the intimacy and love that a relationship should stand for. People like you give women a bad name.

Any smart man with or without money would never marry if he’s smart, period. The benefits of marriage does not benefit men. It’s only beneficial to gold digging women that will divorce and destroy men. Marriage to men is a funeral with a cake, JUST DON’T DO IT! Don’t even date women. Sincerely a solid 33 year MGTOW Monk.

A smart woman works for what she wants but if the man has no vision or goal then what?? It’s a waste of time. Hard working women like myself wants a man who can provide for his family. They’re gold diggers out there who makes bad for the good ones after. I dated a guy for 5 years who’s a mommy’s boy, at first I was like okay he’s caring and loving. The downside is that he depended on his 65y/o mom for everything and liked to talk so much about what he wants to do like opening his own cleaning company then that he wants to have his own masonry company but yet he never got up and did any of it, always dependant on his mom. I researched way for him to do what he said he wants to and even offer to pay for his courses. I told him I don’t want is to be like your parents, dad was a gambler, alcoholic and barely worked and when he did he couldn’t keep a job for too long. I helped him look for a stable secured job but he wouldn’t stop bitching about everything and never last more than 3 months at a job. He stays at his mom playing video games and getting high and he’s 36 y/o and I’m 29. He talk about having a family and kids but I don’t want to cause I know I will be the bread winner, mother and house wife just like his mom and I don’t want that. I want to have my job, be a wife and mother while my man works as well and is a good husband and father. I told him if I end up pregnant I need you to assure me you’ve got us. Does that make me a gold digger or selfish?

I had a girlfriend who wanted to marry me. She brought a ton of debt, a long list of past lovers, a terrible work history, and no wealth or education. She loved going to bars and drinking and had no future prospects. In her own words she said she wants a big house, nice family, to be famous, and a lot of pets. Nothing wrong with her wants but I left her because she wanted all those things yet she expected them to be handed to her. The running joke after I left her was I want to be a billionaire but I’m not going to work and just expect all this money to clock me in the head one day. Be a woman of respect, hardwork, education, and morals… That’s what men want.

Hi I’ve been in a relationship for about
Fifteen years now to an incredible
Woman , when I met her she was more
With it financialy , but unlike most
Women she let her heart do the leading. Well long story short I came
Into my own. Now I make good money
Own my own house as well as three
Cars between the two of us. We have
Two kids and we couldn’t be happier.

Your such a joke, you can cover make claims that you believe in love and that finding a partner with money is for the greater good. Reality is you’re obviously self centered and trying to inspire other girls to pass on guys that have potential to succeed and are just not there yet. I love how women like you would rather find someone that’s already at the top instead of working your ass off with said person in order to be successful together. Most women (most likely including you) are just along for the ride. If women want a rich man, then they better have a pretty amazing career themselves. It’s not one sided. Your article is the epitome of what is wrong with women in America.

I came across this article after overhearing my wife say to girlfriends that if she had to remarry, she would exclusively do it for big money. I was amused by this as I currently make 180k a year, a decent but not rich income and have co-supported my family for 14 years. She makes 80k. I listened to her discuss how hard it was to live on only 260k a year (her income included) and how she would advise our daughter to marry rich so she wouldn’t have the same struggles she has had. I must admit, overhearing this conversion has left a bitter taste in my mouth. I have been a great father and husband. I have been there raising our kids every step of the way. I have put effort into the marriage and into being a good faithful husband and father. But, maybe all that doesn’t seem to matter because I don’t make big rich money. I don’t have much more to say here but it makes me think that maybe I am naive and many women think this way too and are too ashamed to admit it. So is my wife’s thinking in the majority?

This sounds like a plan for a woman that didn’t do much planning when she was younger. Sure, I get it, you have fun through highschool and don’t want to ‘settle down’ yet, then there’s college, but wait, you don’t want to ‘settle down’ yet because you’re just starting your career. Then you’re mid to late 20’s, even early 30’s and a lot more discerning about the men you choose because maybe the “career” wasn’t all it was cracked up to be and you’re thinking of having a kid/family.. or maybe the career never happened and it was just the dance club until 30 and now all of a sudden “OMG!”
Now you have some SERIOUS catching up to do.

Your girlfriends that picked in highschool have had a house for 5-10 years and looking to perhaps sell that one and get a better one. Not you. Now you have to ‘get serious’ but what’s so gross about this is you’re looking for the guy that did all the things that YOU didn’t. Red Pill men see this ALL the time and we’re sick of it because there were no shortcuts for us. We worked HARD while you were on cruise control. And now you’re looking through the men still believing you deserve a TOP man. I’m not gonna lie, there’s a lot of junk out there on the men side too. This is why you’ve become so discerning. You can’t waste any “more” time on the goof balls that made you hot. Now you’re a predatory female looking for meat in terms of money and security instead of that other kind.

Let’s make no mistake, you ARE being discriminated against, just as you are trying to be discriminatory. I’m not using this term the way SJW’s use it. It basically means picky. And no one that’s worked really hard to get where they are likes anyone that thinks they can just skate on in. That’s the entitlement that feminism gave you. And men are catching on. The only reason you think you can still browse for the best man is because there are a lot of blue pilled thirsty men out there. Men that were ignored for a very long time are thirsty. And that’s how you get them. You prey on the weak and needy.

Where is the talk about having your finances in order? Well, it’s missing because you don’t have them in order. But he better, right?

This is the last generation of women that are going to be able to grab onto the caboose as the train leaves the station. It shouldn’t be happening but it does because of 4 generations of men raise by women. But the internet is spreading the truth about predatory females. Sure, we want your body, but you want everything else. Now, single at 44, oh boy… I see the hunger you girls used to see in us. I see the anxiety. I see the women lining up for anti depressants and jumping on Disability for ‘anxiety’. Your fear is rational. But it’s not anyone’s fault but your own. You had it all and squandered it. Now, if a women even ticks slightly when I say I’m getting beer, she’s GONE. I will never marry. I will never co-habitate and if I did, she will be on NO PAPERWORK. And oh boy is she gonna clean. It’s all she’s qualified for after all.

Yeah ok. I had no job when I met my wife. She took me in gave me a roof over my head. There was no work at all. We had a baby lived off social assistance for a year. Took what jobs I could find. We did this for 2 years. She stuck by me the whole time. Yeah it wasn’t easy. But our love prevailed. She had faith in me the whole time. Now I make 130k a year support my wife and our two kids. If she was in it for money she would have left me long ago. Don’t marry a man for money marry him for what he truly is.

Most women nowadays are very high maintenance, independent, greedy, selfish, spoiled, picky, narcissists, really think they’re very high and mighty, gold diggers, users, losers, and so much more can certainly be added to that list as well. MGTOW is growing and getting much stronger each day, and will keep many of us very smart men away from these very pathetic women altogether.

You shouldn’t marry someone for their money because as long as you’re married you will be a slave to that person and have no independence.

“It seems to me their is more men out there that will harm a womans financial standing then their are woman looking for a free ride. This is a very smart move on a females perspective. You men need to get over it and use to it!!!”

I’m a man who’s over it and used to it. I understand women well and get that money is very important to them. After all, you can’t eat love! Women want to marry someone who can provide for them (or at least help to). In my experience the ideal man for a woman is one who is practical, makes finances a priority, works regular hours, gives what little free time he has away from work to entertaining his wife, and has no hobbies to distract him from either.

I’m proud to say I’m not that guy, though. I’m an autodidact and very educated. This is because I spend time bettering myself by learning and improving me. I can play several instruments, have a million hobbies, I’m very creative in all the arts such as painting and drawing, have written books, and I’ve read absolutely everything. Unless you’re Harold Bloom it’s very likely you’ve not read more than me. This along with much time spent in reflection has allowed me to become an enlightened person. But of course I’m also a marriage-desiring woman’s worst nightmare.

Girls really love a few of my guy friends who are considered extremely dull by all guys who know them. This was the hardest lesson I had to learn – that and of course the fact that girls could care less if you have a good heart (or at least it’s way, way down on the list). If they’re like my second love who left me for a millionaire investment banker (she was a model so she had options), they’ll tell you in their goodbye email you have one of the kindest hearts they’ve ever known and then promptly follow that up with the facts they just don’t love you anymore and the new guy’s a lot better than you. Likewise, my first love left me and the first line in her email was: “I know you’ll be a great writer one day, but it’s hard to have a relationship with someone pursuing that career”. I don’t blame either of them. I understand reality and this makes really good sense to me. Which is why I don’t marry.

I work out and diet and take care of my body. I take care of my mind and spend time thinking about the world and learning about me. I have very little money at all and I’m extremely happy. The truth is that without a partner to provide for I don’t need money. This is what a lot of women don’t understand – men don’t need money. They just desire women and so the foolish ones think money is the only way to get them. But it’s not. It’s just the only way to keep them. Material things mean nothing to me so I just don’t do long-term relationships. On the other hand, I have a lot of confidence which means I can bed girls very quickly. Given the reality that I’d just be a place-filler to them anyway, I don’t want them to stick around anymore than they do. So I just keep several girlfriends at once, keep dazzling new ones with my intellect, wit, charm, and confidence – ironically, all of which are results of my independence.

By understanding women value financial solvency over love I’ve learned not to hold grudges against the 2 loves of my life. Both lined up wealthy men behind my back when we were dating so they wouldn’t have to be alone when they left me and could immediately be taken care of. They tell me they’re better off without me and that they’re blessed. I know they truly believe this so I’m happy for them. In a sense, though, it’s still a little sad on my end because to this day I still love both of them very much. I’m truly grateful I ever got to be with them in the first place. They were absolutely incredible! And I was so happy with them and the way they got all those crazy chemicals shooting around my brain. I’m don’t have that heavenly euphoria-like feeling anymore but I also don’t have any stress (money problems) or drama (female-male misunderstandings). I’m free of things and others. I’m my own person. I don’t need them the way they need the guys there with. Everyday is full of possibility: new women all the time. And women are much more into you the first year you know them anyway. After that it’s mostly attachment and shared experience that you think of as love and all the exciting (feeling of newness and mystery) fun sex goes out the window. This man loves the article! Smiles everyone!

First impression: did you write this article just to get a lot of hits? Obviously men will hate this and women, especially single and divorced women, will love this.
Second, it’s articles like this that make men run for prenups before marriage or avoid marriage all together.
Third, we live in a different age. I believe men and women are complete equals. Women are graduating from college at a higher rate compared to men. So when it comes to seeking out a partner in life, men looks for looks and compatibility, women look for money, comparability and looks? Since women can make just as much money nowadays why belittle yourself into depending on a man for financial security? Shouldn’t you view your financial security the same way your equal opposite sex views it as, YOUR RESPONSIBILTY?
Fourth, you say it’s compatibility but you finish your article asking women if their smart? All women? Not just graduate students but hair dressers bank tellers etc. would you recommend a women making 12,000 a year still seek out a rich man? If so, doesn’t your compatibility argument become a mute point. And basically make it the average case for why to be a gold digger.
Fifth. If your a smart women YOU SHOULD GO TO SCHOOL DO WHAT YOU LOVE AND MAKES LOTS OF YOUR OWN MONEY IF YOUR A SMART WOMEN YOU CAN FIND YOUR OWN FINANCIAL SECURITY INSTEAD OF PLANNING ON TRY AND FIND IT THROUGH A MAN. THIS ARTICLE IS BEYOND SEXIST ON SO MANY LEVELS. I HAVE BEWS FOR YOU IT’S NOT THE 50s.

It’s funny how a well-thought article can raise so much ire between the sexes. Not only is the author completely right in suggesting that there needs to be an equal level of responsibility and commitment in a relationship — and, yes, that includes finances — but it’s also critical to pay close attention to perspective and language around money. My ex came from a perspective of “lack” — there was never enough, everything was too hard, he couldn’t or wouldn’t… Of course that’s a gross generalization but, after years of working my ass off trying to carry our entire family and please him, I got smart, cut loose the anchor and decided to allow myself to soar for the benefit of my children and me. Now I work harder than ever as a sole provider and single parent, yet I’m happier, earn more, enjoy greater respect at work and am looking for a man who doesn’t carry the erroneous scripts that “it’s difficult to find a job in this economy” or that “there’s not enough to go around.” The universe is abundant! Opportunities abound!

some men marry solely for looks and some women marry solely for money. if you are in a truly loving relationship money and looks wont matter because both disappear over time. women who are beautiful have no trouble getting men, but most women who are beautiful use men for their money. guys who are with woman like this should kick them to the curb immediately and men shouldnt marry solely for looks. i myself am a so-so looking 37 year old men who is unemployed and has a decent amount of money saved up but not enough money to please any of the shallow asshole woman that ive met over the years. and i have dated girls who werent that good looking but it didnt work out for whatever reason- usually because they wanted to get back with their asshole ex boyfriends who treated them like shit instead of staying with a nice good hearted guy like me. im single now and i think i am better off.

I find it hilarious how up in arms the commentors are over this article. If you despise superficiality then why don’t you shack up with a fifty-year-old, obese woman? After all, love is blind, right? Get serious. Wealthy and frankly, the not weathy among men want the most attractive woman they can find. They make no apologies about this extremely superficial view but get upset and throw a fit when a woman has requirements for herself.

I don’t believe in marrying “for money” but I’d never marry a man who was broke because after the honeymoon is over, reality sets in. Car problems, no health insurance, lack of a vacation…ever- that’s my sister’s reality. She is miserable. Marry someone with goals who understands that life involves fundamental basics for living.

Anything less is settling for unhappiness.

I am all for saving money and that; but how do I convince my girlfriend to stop spending my money on junk like $200 handbags and $100 dinners when we can’t afford it?

she always says that she wants to leave me for a man that can pay for her expensive goods, even though I have a stable job and I save my money (or should I say: TRY to save our money, because my girfriend pushes me into withdrawing money from my savings and spending it on expensive clothes and foods)

I HAVE TO STRONGLY DISSAGREE WITH THIS TYPE OF THINKING. I ADMIT A SMART WOMEN SHOULD WANT A MAN WHO CAN TAKE CARE OF HIMSELF AND HIS FINANCES, BUT THERE ARE SOME WHO CHOOSE TO REJECT MEN SOLELY ON THERE FINANCIAL STATUS. I HAVE RECENTLY HAD AN EXPERIENCE WHERE I GOT BACK TOGETHER WITH MY TRUE LOVE FROM COLLEGE, WE WERE MEANT TO BE TOGETHER. WE ARE PERFECT FOR EACH OTHER. HOWEVER WE ARE BOTH GOING THROUGH SOME TOUGH TIMES, HER DIVORCE AND MY EX ETC. WELL AT FIRST SHE WAS VERY EXCITED TO BE BACK WITH ME AND WE MADE PLANS TO START OUR FUTURE TOGETHER. UNFORTUNATELY MY CAREER IS NOT TAKING OFF AS WELL AS HERS AND SHE DECIDED TO LEAVE ME SOLELY ON THIS FACT. UNDERSTAND WE ARE CURRENTLY IN A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP WHICH IS ALSO HARD. WE TRUELY LOVE EACH OTHER BUT SINCE I COULD NOT IMPROVE MY CAREER FAST ENOUGH, WITHIN IN 3 MONTHS, SHE DUMPED ME. I AM NOT A BUM BY ANY STANDARD AND WORK A GOOD JOB 40 TO 60 HOURS A WEEK. SHE HAS HER HEART SET ON RETIRING EARLY AND BEING RICH. I THINK SHE IS MAKING A BIG MISSTAKE. SHE MAY BECOME RICH, WHO KNOWS, BUT SHE WILL NOT HAVE ANYONE TO ENJOY IT WITH THAT WILL TREAT HER THE WHY I DID. MONEY IS AN ILLUSION AND WILL NOT MAKE YOU HAPPY. IT WILL OF COURSE MAKE YOU HAPPIER TO HAVE NICE THINGS AND MAYBE A BETTER LIFESTYLE, BUT IF YOU BECOME SO OBSSESSED WITH IT AS SHE HAS BECOME YOU WILL LOSE IN THE END. SO IN CONCLUSION, I AGREE WHEN PICKING A DATE FOR A RELATIONSHIP IT IS GOOD TO HAVE SOMEONE WHO WORKS HARD AND CAN TAKE CARE OF THERE FINANCES, BUT I THINK IT IS UNFAIR TO REJECT SOMEONE YOU TRUELY HAVE A CONNECTION WITH BECAUSE OF THERE CURRENT MISFORTUNE. FURTHERMORE IF YOU ARE TRUELY IN LOVE WITH YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER IT DOESN’T MATTER. THE MONEY WON’ T ALWAYS BE THERE FOR EITHER OF YOU. IF YOU MARRY SOMEONE WHO SEEMS TO BE A FINANCIAL GOD AND NOT FOR LOVE WHAT HAPPENS IF HE COLLAPSES, THEN YOU HAVE NEITHER.

JDB,

You are right, this is a controversial article as I figured it would strike a nerve with most of the men reading, after all who wants to be viewed as a meal ticket. However, as Ive said to others you’re reading way tooo deeply into the story. What I meant is what I wrote.

After receiving comments on my own site and emails about the article further discussing it Ive come to the conclusion that its easier for some men to evoke sentiments of love and communication rather than think about the very issues that drives so many divorces today. The divorce rate in this country has skyrocketed in part due to issues around money. Many arent willing to face this realization but love does NOT conquer all.

The point of my article is to encourage women to be savvy about the life partners they choose. Too many of us fall for the same ole love and communication game. Those are a given. I should have stated that. But to say that women should not focus on HOW financially savvy their partners are in favor of ONLY focusing on given characteristics like communication, chemistry etc etc is equivalent to skipping across a major highway in oncoming traffic. You’re bound to get knocked on your face with the reality that you should have looked before crossing. The same applies here: women should be looking at a man in ALL areas, not just chemistry, communication and the like.

No where did I say that men are a meal ticket or that the SIZE of their bank accounts should be taken into consideration. The article simply aimed to discuss HOW these men manage their money. I am happily married to a man who shares the same sentiments and felt the same way when we got together. He wanted a woman who was financially savvy and who wouldnt spend us into the poor house. I also have a husband who is budget conscious and thinks long term when it comes to our financial goals. This was my point. My husband makes great money but that wasn’t the only reason that I chose him as my life partner. His characteristics far outweigh his financially savvy but make no mistake, his level of financial interest and savvy played a HUGE role. I want no part of a man that spends recklessly because I do not plan to be broke and miserable in my old age because by choosing an irresponsible partner, we had to declare bankruptcy twice or foreclose on our home.

No, not this woman.

A financially savvy woman may not be for you because it evokes other negative feelings but it doesn’t negate the fact that women are beginning to take a closer look at HOW their partners manage money. NOT how much money they make.

Marriage like a business ? I know this is a financial blog, but honestly, a business you can close if it doesn’t return as you expected. I certainly hope you don’t view your marriage this way.