I came across this today:

Whatever the reason, experts say that at our core, there’s one reason we find wealthy men attractive: instinct. Women, research shows, rank the ability to provide as the most important quality when selecting a mate. Men, not surprisingly, prize a woman’s looks and youthfulness over her other qualities, because those are indicators of fecundity. It’s all about finding the best person to breed with.

As it turns out, we’re all just slaves to our prehistoric urges, even in an era when none of those millenniums-old rules would seem to apply…

A 2006 study done through the University of Chicago shows that men who post online profiles indicating income of $250,000 a year generate significantly more contacts (up to 151% more) than those who make under $50,000…

The article continues to say that the relationships formed between wealthy men and younger, beautiful women start off great but aren’t made for long-term relationships. So here are a few questions. Do you believe money is a turn-on? Can long-term relationships be formed with a disparity in wealth?

Is Money an Aphrodisiac?, Kris Frieswick, MSN Money, July 4, 2008

The American Dream in terms of being wealthy, is to work only four hours a week, outsource your tedious chores to those whose time is worth less than yours, and to put your feet up and relax while being pampered from all sides. With more money, you’ll get there, right?

It turns out that wealth is a predictor (i.e., not necessarily a cause or effect) that people will spend less time on pleasurable activities.

People who make less than $20,000 a year… spend more than a third of their time in passive leisure—watching television, for example. Those making more than $100,000 spent less than one-fifth of their time in this way—putting their legs up and relaxing. Rich people spent much more time commuting and engaging in activities that were required as opposed to optional. The richest people spent nearly twice as much time as the poorest people in leisure activities that were active, structured and often stressful—shopping, child care and exercise.

Commuting, traveling from affordable homes to well-paying jobs, is an activity of the wealthy, and those who are wealthier spend more time doing this than others. Is this what we have to look forward to as we work to increase income and net worth? More stress?

The study mentioned in this article indicates that people assume mistakenly that being wealthy involves playing leisurely sports (like golf, I would assume), watching television and movies on a large, flat-screen television, and receiving massages and other pampering. Is this a stereotypical misconception, or does the study not take into account differences between the wealthy and the ultrawealthy?

Is there a difference between the small company CEO, earning lots of money with lots of responsibility (including stress and commutation) and the very few multi-billionaires that let their money earn more money while they do other things? Is that perception a myth? Even Bill Gates and Warren Buffett are still quite busy running their foundations or businesses. Are there multi-billionaires relaxing on the coast of Mexico without a care in the world?

How Rich People Spend Their Time, Washington Post, June 23, 2008

According to a 2004 survey, 21 percent of people born in 1964 or later expect to inherit money from family some time in the future. Many expecting recipients may be in for a surprise, however. A recent article by Ron Lieber at the New York Times identifies eight reasons why inheritances, perhaps not those in rich families but in well-off middle class families, may be diminishing over the next generation or two.

1. People who make it to 65 will live a lot longer. More time alive requires more expenses, and in many cases this is significant. The cost of care for elderly seems to grow exponentially with increasing age.

Try to guess how long your relatives will live using this life expectancy calculator.

2. Social Security and Medicare will probably change. It’s a safe bet that the goverment will be cutting back on the services offered by these programs as more people require the services and fewer people are paying the associated taxes. Therefore, more expenses will need to be covered by your relatives’ nest eggs, otherwise known as your potential inheritance.

3. Fewer people have pensions, so they’re more wedded to the markets. With a nest egg invested in the market for long term growth, the funds are subject to the swings of the stock market. A down market at the wrong time could reduce your inheritance by ten percent. Say goodbye to your summer home.

Also, a down market during any time during your relatives’ retirement means that more of their principal will go towards paying their own expenses.

4. Out-of-pocket health care costs for retirees may soon hit seven figures a couple. A 55-year-old couple with above average medical costs can be expected to need more than $1,000,000 in capital just to finance health case costs for the rest of their lives.

5. Divorced individuals may pass on less money. Leaving an inheritance to children is often a joint endeavor. Without a connection between husband and wife, one might not be willing to pass wealth onto kids seen as the other’s.

The divorce rate in the United States has been declining recently, but the rate of co-habitation (opposed to marriage) is increasing. The supposed colatile nature of co-habitation may have the same financial impact to heirs as divorce does.

6. It’s getting easier to drain a home’s equity. The reverse mortgage is an increasingly popular way to turn one of your largest assets in retirement into an income stream. A cash-strapped retirees can find himself selling his house back to a bank, and when the house is sold, the proceeds go to the bank rather than to the family.

7. Life insurance may not offer much help. Many people have the opportunity to sell life insurance policies to investors. When someone does so, the benefits normally received by the insured become the property of the investor, leaving less to pass to the next generation.

8. The transfer of wealth will increasingly happen while the older generations are still alive. Rom points out that grandparents are increasingly helping grandchildren with education expenses, as the cost of a college degree continues to skyrocket. Whether these types of transfers are intended to reduce estate tax liability or simply help their relatives in the best means possible, it reduces the size of the estate that would theoretically be available for inheritance.

All of the above trends considered, I think it’s safer for most of us to assume there is no inheritance on the way. With this in mind, without the thought of being bailed out in the future, it can force some of us to be more mindful about spending today.

8 Reasons You Should Not Expect an Inheritance, Ron Lieber, New York Times, June 21, 2008.

How soon into a relationship should you disclose your financial condition, if at all? A wealthy woman wrote a letter to the editor of Money Magazine recently to explain that she does not want to let her new boyfriend, a relationship with the potential to get serious, that she has money. She is wondering whether it’s ethical to keep this information from her boyfriend or whether there’s a point at which she should let him know of her wealth.

The magazine’s editors did a good job of answering the question, and I agree with their conclusions. If a relationship becomes serious and marriage is a possibility, there should be no secrets. This particular woman was hurt by a former boyfriend who “used her for her money” once he discovered that it was possible to do so. That should be an immediate signal that this was not the right guy for her, but it should not scare anyone away from being truthful about money in general. You do have to make a judgment call to determine the right time for approaching the subject. It’s probably not appropriate if you’re on the first few dates, but if you’re starting to pick out rings or talk about living together, I don’t see how these decisions can be made without full financial disclosure.

Commenters who left their opinions below the Money Magazine article are divided. Some have very strong opinions in favor of not telling the boyfriend until the last possible minute. Some think they should discuss money as soon as they decide that the relationship is “serious.” But what is “serious?”

My questions are more specific: Should financial disclosure happen only after a couple decides to get married? Would this prevent money and the attitudes about wealth from affecting relationship decisions, or would it create the possibility for unhealthy surprises later? Should financial information, particularly if that information sets you apart from the average joe or jane, remain protected for as long as possible?

My girlfriend, A., reads Consumerism Commentary, so she can find details about almost every penny I earn and spend. I do have a special account set aside which I call “The A. Fund,” included in my savings totals. In order to allow the occasional surprise, I don’t provide her with details about that money. However, if she looks at my monthly reports, she could get a good idea of what I can and cannot afford in general. Not all relationships include someone who posts their finances in public, though.

What would you do or what do you do? Feel free to post a comment anonymously if you’re worried your significant other may read.

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[Money Magazine: I don’t want to tell my boyfriend I’m loaded]

When I first read The Millionaire Next Door by Thomas Stanley and William Danko, it didn’t inspire me. It’s not that I disagreed with the authors, but I found the book uninteresting. It was one of the first financial books I read after beginning Consumerism Commentary, and it came highly recommended from readers here and participants in The Motley Fool’s community.

Without getting too much into my problems with the book, I will say that the idea that a “millionaire” is more likely to be your local business owner rather than someone born into a family of money was new to me.

Recently, PNC Wealth Management conducted a survey of people with more than $500,000 free to invest as they like, a fair definition of “wealthy,” and possibly “millionaire” once you begin including home equity and other assets. Only 6% of those surveyed earned their money from inheritance alone. 69% earned their wealth mostly by trading time and effort for money, or by “working.”

Here are some interesting statistics I pulled from an article discussing the survey results.

• 36% of earners and 27% of heirs are concerned about an economic recession.
• 77% of earners and 67% of heirs believe they have a lot of control of their financial future.
• 39% of earners and 21% of heirs are moderate or risky investors.
• 75% of earners and 50% of heirs have less stress thanks to their wealth.
• 51% of earners and 33% of heirs believe their wealth has led to increases of happiness.
• Heirs are twice as likely to believe that their wealth causes more problems that it solves.
• 37% of earners and 25% of heirs believe that luck played a major role in their financial success.

For me, the choice is clear. There is only one option if I want to find myself with $500,000 of investible assets: earn rather than inherit.

[Yahoo Finance, MarketWatch: Earnings Growth]

According to CNN, if you add up the net worth of the 400 wealthiest Americans, you come up with a combined net worth of $1,250,000,000,000. That’s $1.25 trillion.

That’s an increase of $120 billion from last year.

The article then goes on to describe who is in the list (only billionaires, no lowly millionaires). Warren Buffett and Bill Gates, pictured here, are at the top, But that’s not important to me today. This is what I really want to know: Read the rest of this article »